Family Roles
Makes the family look good. Ignores the problem, they project the family in a good light. This person may be operating on underlying fear, guilt, and shame.
Who is the Hero?
What is a stressor?
The total number of gifts that were given in "The 12 Days of Christmas?"
What is 364?
Seeing only the worst possible outcomes for a situation.
What is catastrophizing?
To relax through our senses.
What is self soothing?
This is the role of the jester, making inappropriate jokes about the people involved. Although they provide humor it is often harmful humor. Underlying feelings of embarrassment, shame and anger.
What is the Mascot?
Heart rate increases to supply body with blood it needs. Respiration rate increases to increase amount of oxygen in the blood. Blood is diverted to large muscle groups and you sweat to cool down.
What is the stress response?
Who is Cupid?
The belief that one is responsible for events outside of their own control.
What is personalization?
To ride the ebbs and flows of emotions and urges without reacting.
What is urge surfing?
The silent member of the family. Typically unseen and may prefer to be alone. Try their best not to cause problems. Give up their own needs and avoid conversations regarding underlying feelings of guilt, loneliness, neglect and anger.
Who is the Lost Child?
Technique used to calm the body, regulate breathing and counter act negative effects of anxiety.
What is respiratory control or res control?
The popular Christmas song that was actually written for Thanksgiving.
What is Jingle Bells?
Interpreting the thoughts and beliefs of others without adequate evidence.
What is mind reading?
What is wise mind?
This person acts out, rebels, and makes noise in an effort to divert attention away from the substance user. This prevents needed support getting to the addict. May be operating on underlying feelings of shame, guilt, and emptyness.
Who is the Scapegoat?
What is the "fight or flight" response?
The first company to use Santa in advertising?
What is Coca-Cola?
Thinking in absolutes such as "always", "never", or "every".
What is all or nothing thinking
To not let things "stick to" you.
What is Teflon mind.
Makes all other roles possible. Try to keep all happy and the family in balance. They do this by making excuses for all behaviors and prevent addict from seeing consequences. May be operating on underlying feelings of inadequacy, fear, and helplessness.
Who is the Caretaker/Enabler?
Once out of danger this response kicks in to conserve energy and relax us until the next time we encounter a stressor.
What is the "Rest and Digest" response?
The amount of reindeer in the story "Twas the night before Christmas".
What is 8?
Making broad interpretations from a single or few events.
What is over generalizing?
To remove the means to act on harmful urges.
What is bridge burning?