Boundaries
What type of boundary is portrayed in the following example:
My exes would probably say I am hard to read and detached, I've been hurt and I just like to keep my distance.
Rigid Boundaries.
What communication style uses criticism, only focuses on the needs of the communicator and shows an unwillingness to compromise?
Aggressive Communication
Is the following an example of healthy guilt or unhealthy guilt? why?:
Suzanne has a lot on her plate at work and forgot to pick up cupcakes for her sons birthday party at school and feels terribly guilty.
unhealthy. Caused my actions or behaviors that break unrealistically high expectations for ourselves.
Name 4 physical symptoms associated with anger.
high blood pressure, shaky, face gets hot, heart starts beating, foot starts tapping, sweating.
What stage of change is described in the following example?:
"I am going to meetings regularly, staying on my routine and have found some fun sober living activities."
Maintenance
What type of boundary is represented by the following example:
I have a habit of giving out too much information to people I have just met and have a hard time saying no to people.
Porous Boundaries
Poor eye contact, prioritizing the needs of others and lack of confidence describe which communication style?
Passive Communication
Is the following statement an example of guilt or shame?
"I am a terrible person because I chose drugs over my family even though I have changed."
Shame.
Draw and label the Cycle of Anger
DAILY DOUBLE!!!
Triggering Event---Negative Thoughts---Emotional Response---Physical Symptoms---Behavioral Response.
What stage of change is described in the following example?:
"I have made a list of treatment options and written out the pros and cons to treatment."
Preparation
What type of boundary is being violated when someone touches you when you don't want them to, or they invade your personal space?
Physical Boundaries
What communication style is being represented in the following example:
A friend asks you if they can borrow you car which is inconvenient for you.
You respond with "I need my car today, but where you are going is on my way, I can drop you off."
Assertive Communication
15 months.
The following feelings can build into anger:
a. resentment
b. contentment
c. happiness
d. disappointment
e. both a. and d.
E. both A and D
What stage of change is described in the following example?:
"I really have lost a lot from using and I think I'm ready to do something about it, I just don't know what to do about it."
Contemplation
What type of boundary is being violated when someone criticizes, belittles or invalidates another persons feelings?
Extra 100 pts if you can give an example of how to set a healthy emotional boundary.
Emotional Boundaries
Two parts:
Should you discuss the problem with someone while you are angry?
When should you discuss the problem?
no.
When you have both calmed down.
Is the following an example of guilt or shame?:
Chris hit someone driving drunk and feels terrible about it. Chris realized he needed to change and checked himself into rehab.
Extra 100 pts healthy guilt or unhealthy guilt and why?
Guilt
Healthy guilt, used as motivation to make a change.
What is the outcome of communicating when angry?
nothing gets resolved. no one is listening.
answers vary.
What stage of change is described in the following example?:
"I called some rehab centers today and chose one I think will fit my needs. I am so happy I am starting this process."
Action.
What type of boundary is depicted in the following example?
I know who I am and value myself. I can accept what others have to say but I can also speak up for myself.
Healthy Boundaries
Create an "I statement" for the following situation:
You run into an old friend who is still in active addiction. The friend offers you your DOC.
Format: I feel ____ when you _____ because _____ and I would like______.
answers vary.
What is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt: feeling bad about what you have done.
Shame: feeling bad about who you are.
Map out the last time you were angry:
Trigger:
Warning signs:
Anger Response:
Outcome:
Extra 100 pts to identify an appropriate coping skill.
answers vary
Draw and label the Stages of Change
DAILY DOUBLE!!!
Precontemplation, Contemplation, Preparation, Maintenance, Relapse. (Transcendence)