What is tattling?
Why might a person tattle?
To get someone in trouble, to control the situation, they haven't tried to solve the issues themselves, it's not their business
Report to an adult when someone is in _ _ _ _ _ _.
Danger
The first rule to avoid tattling states:
Is anyone in _______.
Is anyone in Danger?
Nelly notices Eric doodling all over his math homework. Would telling the teacher be tattling, or reporting? Why?
Tattling. It is not Nelly's business, there is no danger, and it is not an immediate problem.
What is one coping skill you can use to relax?
Take deep breaths
Color or make art
Go for a walk
Listen to music
Read
How might a person who has been tattled on feel?
Called out, embarrassed, angry, annoyed
Why is it important to report to an adult?
Someone could be in danger, you need help from an adult to solve the problem, the problem might need an immediate solution, it involves you and one of the above, or someone is in danger
What does it mean to be a Problem Solver?
A Problem Solver is a kid who solves problems that they are involved in! Kid sized problems (no one is in danger) and could include resolving a conflict, making a compromise, or trying something different.
Sharon is in line when Ruby pushes her out of the way to take her place. Sharon is tearful and her knee is scratched from her fall. The teacher is out of the room, and Aaron notices. Would informing the teacher be tattling or reporting?
Reporting, Sharon is hurt. The teacher was not in the room to see the event take place, and Sharon may need to medical attention.
Is a disagreement with a friend a big problem or a little problem?
Little
Why is tattling a problem?
Puts you in a situation that doesn't involve you, disrupts the class, distracts from adult-sized problems, can cause problems with your relationships with peers, can be mean-spirited, there are better ways to get attention
How do you know if you're reporting?
Someone is in danger
The problem is not one a kid can solve on their own
The problem needs an immediate solution
It involves you and one of the situations above, or someone is in danger
What is another rule to consider besides danger?
Now, or Later?
Does the problem need to be addressed immediately? Can it wait, or maybe the solution will arise if you are patient.
Shaun is talking during study time. You know the rules are no talking but he ignores it. Would this be tattling or reporting?
Tattle. The teacher is in the room and monitoring the class, and no one was in danger. It is not Shawns job to monitor the class.
What is one positive thing you can say to yourself every day?
I am strong and gentle.
I am smart and can get help when I need it.
I can do hard things, and I have people who support me.
When you witness someone being bullied should you report?
Yes
When do you report to an adult if the problem needs to be solved and safety is a concern?
Immediately
What does M. Y. O. B. stand for? What is an example?
Mind your own business. This means, if it doesn't involve you, and no one is in danger, there is no need to tattle!
Howard threatens to kick Alice if she joins in their soccer game. Alice tries to reason with him, however, Howard continues to make threats and seems aggressive. Alice lets the teacher know that she has been threatened. Did she tattle or report? Why?
Report. Alice tried to solve the problem first, she believes that Howard would follow through on his threat.
What are 2 traits you should possess to be a good friend?
Loyal
trustworthy
Kind
caring
What can you do instead of tattling?
Try to solve the problem on your own, wait to see if it can be solved later, mind your own business
What should you do first to avoid tattling?
Try to be a Problem Solver, decide if it's a Now, or Later problem
What questions should I ask myself before tattling or reporting?
Is someone in danger?
How can I be helpful?
Is it any of my business?
Does something need to happen NOW?
Sasha is at lunch when is milk is spilled all over the table and Sasha's clothes. Sasha and Lucy start to mop it up with their napkins, however, there is a lot of milk! After pitching in, Miley calls the teacher over for help. Is this tattling or reporting?
Reporting, Sasha, Lucy and Milly tried to solve the problem on their own, but there was too much milk to be handled with napkins, and Sasha needs a dry shirt. This was a "now problem" as the milk spread.
Who are safe adults you can talk to or ask for help?
Examples: Parents, teachers, aunts/uncles, counselors, principals, and school nurse.