Roots of Violence
What is violence?
Any force, energy, or action that injures, harms, or destroys.
Define what power and control mean
Power is having control or authority.
Control is exerting influence on someone/something.
What is an Upstander?
Someone who uses non-violent, bystander intervention skills to prevent violence
What is dating violence?
A pattern of behavior in which one person uses intimidations. threats of or actual physical, emotional, or sexual violence in order to maintain power and control over their partner
How do you figure out what someone's boundaries are?
You ask! Communication is key!
Types of Violence
Physical, Emotional and Psychological, Sexual, Verbal
Examples of what power and control look like in a relationship
Isolation, peer pressure, anger/emotional abuse, sexual coercion, using social status, minimize/deny/blame, intimidation, and threats
What is the difference between a bystander vs an upstander?
A bystander does nothing while an upstander does something nonviolent to intervene
What are some warning signs of dating violence?
Isolation, fear, extreme jealousy, threats, avoiding upsetting your partner, partner throwing or breaking things when angry, partner threatens self harm if you leave, yelling, calling names, putting you down, etc...
What is sexual violence?
Any form of nonconsensual sexual behavior
Effects of Violence
Direct: emotional trauma, property damage, physical injury, loss of life, disruption of daily life
Indirect: increased fear and anxiety, decreased financial security, negative impact on mental health, disrupted relationships, increased need for security measures
What are the 3 common abusive tactics used in teen relationships?
1. Isolation
2. Intensity
3. Fear of Disorder/Chaos
List 3 ways you can be an Upstander!
Yay, you answered!!
What are some rules for fighting fair?
Stick to one issue at a time, address the problem--not the person, own your actions, use "I" statements, focus on finding a solution, really listen, consider their point of view, be assertive not aggressive or defensive, choose the right time to talk, etc...
What is the difference between flirting and sexual harassment?
Flirting: gives you a feeling of confidence, can be reciprocal, is non-threatening and complimentary, when asked to they will stop
Sexual harassment: gives you a feeling of humiliation or discomfort, is not reciprocal, tears down self esteem, an imbalance of power, when asked to stop they don't
Causes of Violence
Power and control, negative emotions, lack of coping skills, victim-blaming, discrimination, systematic oppression, cultural acceptance of violence, etc.
Believe they are at fault
They love the other person
Threats
Nowhere to go
Peer Pressure
etc...
List 4 different calming strategies
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List 3 signs of a healthy relationship
How can we prevent sexual violence and coercive control?
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What is the cycle of violence?
Where can you get help with an unhealthy relationship?
CAPSA, Police, DCFS, SAFE-UT, SAFE-FAM, 988, Trusted Adult, etc.
List the 4Ds of Bystander Intervention
1. Direct
2. Distract
3. Delegate
4. Delay
What does the acronym FLIRT stand for when creating a healthy relationship?
Friendship
Like (affection)
Intention
Respect
Truthful
What does FRIES stand for when it comes to consent?
Freely given
Reversible
Informed
Enthusiastic
Specific