Being Kind
What is ONE example of a kind thing that one person may do for another person?
-check in on them
-spend quality time with them
-compliment them
-help someone with a chore, homework, etc.
-listen to them
Name THREE topics that you can use to start a conversation with somebody you DON'T know.
-movies/tv shows
-favorite foods
-hobbies
-school
-pets
-(video) games
Name THREE coping skills, and demonstrate each of them.
-deep breathing
-positive self talk
-imagining something that makes you happy
-taking a break
-muscle relaxation
-using a distraction (e.g., play a game, talk to a friend, bake/cook)
-do something active (e.g., go for a walk/run, dance, play a sport)
Name ONE kind thing you did this past week.
Answers vary.
Name THREE ways that you can SHOW someone you are respectfully listening to them.
-eye contact
-nodding
-not interrupting them
-summarizing what they said
-body language (facing them, sitting nicely)
-smiling
Explain what "coping skills" are in your own words. And why they are important.
Coping skills are things that we can do in-the-moment, when we aren't feeling so great (e.g., anxious, sad, angry, overwhelmed) to help us feel better.
They are important because it helps us calm down. It also keeps us from saying/doing something we'll regret later just because we got caught up in those negative emotions.
You see that your friend is getting frustrated with their homework. They start sighing and putting their head down.
Name TWO things you can do to help your friend feel better.
-help them with their homework
-ask if they're okay
-listen to them
-offer to take a break with them
You just joined the school's new soccer team. What are THREE topics that you can talk about with your teammates to get to know them?
-How long they've been playing soccer
-If they play any other sports
-If they are in any other clubs/teams
-School, in general
This week, you have homework for each class, plus one report and one project due the week after.
1) How might you be feeling about this?
2) Name TWO coping skills you could use to handle any negative emotions, then demonstrate them both.
-get organized (figure out a schedule for when you would do each assignment)
-positive self talk ("it's okay. I can do this. I just need to take it a little bit at a time. I will do what is due first.")
-ask a teacher/parent/friend for help
-deep breathing
Peter is hanging out at his friend Rina's house. Rina's mom tells her that she needs to do her chores before she can hang out with Peter. While Rina vacuums and mops the floor, does the dishes, and takes out the trash, Peter goes through the fridge and takes out a bunch of food to eat. After eating, he leaves the leftovers and dirty dishes on the table. Peter then says, "Rina, hurry up and finish your chores so we can play Roblox. You're so slow."
Was Peter being kind? Why or why not?
If you said no, what could Peter have done differently?
Instead, he could have:
-helped Rina with her chores
-cleaned up after himself
-spoke kindly to Rina
-offered to hang out a different day so that Rina isn't feeling pressure to complete her chores quickly
You're talking to someone new. After a few minutes, the other person begins to look around the room and play on their phone.
1) How does this make you feel?
2) Name TWO coping skills you can use to handle any negatives feelings. Then SHOW us how you would use those coping skills.
1) sad; upset; disappointed; angry; annoyed; frustrated; anxious
2)
-deep breaths (4-7-8; box breathing; rainbow breaths)
-positive self-talk ("I'm being a good conversationalist. It's not my fault that the other person is not listening. I am doing a great job at staying calm.")
-taking a break or ending the conversation politely by excusing yourself
You had a huge argument with your friend yesterday, and they haven't talked to you since then. When you try to talk to them, they yelled that they don't want to talk to you right now.
1) What might you be feeling about all of this?
2) Name TWO coping skills that you could use in the moment (when they yelled at you), then demonstrate them.
1) angry, sad, hurt, frustrated
2)
-deep breaths
-muscle relaxation
-positive self talk ("I didn't do anything wrong. My friend is just upset right now.")
Name THREE kind things you did this past month.
Answers vary.
"I love Italian food!"
Give THREE examples of follow-up questions you could ask.
-Do you have a favorite Italian restaurant?
-What's your favorite Italian dish?
-Do you know how to cook any Italian dishes?
You had a really rough day today. You were late to school, which means you have to do the classwork at home. You lost your homework for math class. And it started raining really hard as you were walking home.
1) What is ONE positive thing that you can tell yourself when you're in the MIDDLE of a hard day?
2) What is ONE positive thing that you can tell yourself at the END of a hard day?
3) Name ONE coping skill you can use to feel better, then demonstrate it.
1) "Just ___ more periods, then I get to go home and relax."
2) "It was a really hard day but I got through it and tomorrow is a new day."
3) Take a break; use a distraction; talk to a friend; do something active/creative