Positive Self-Talk
What is Positive Self-Talk?
Words or phrases that we say to ourselves for encouragement and support!
What are the three states of mind?
reasonable, emotional, and wise
What are the 4 styles of communication?
Passive, Aggressive, Passive Aggressive, and Assertive
Which letter in ACCEPTS is using your 5 senses?
S - Senses
Reframe this:
She broke up with me last night. Now I will never find a partner.
Examples:
"I am unhappy now and that does not mean I will never be happy again."
"I am jumping to conclusions"
"I'm having the thought that I will never find a partner again."
Give an example of positive self-talk.
“I am strong, I am kind, and I am unique” OR "I deserve to be happy!"
What is the wise mind statement we use?
I can feel __ and I can still ___.
Which style of communication is sarcastic, misleading, avoid being direct or clear on what you need, make excuses, blame others, attempt to be funny
Passive Aggressive
What does the C “comparisons” mean in ACCEPTS?
identify people you look up to and identify qualities about them that you would also like to have!
Being aware of the present moment and focusing our attention on the here and now
Mindfulness
Give a PST statement you could use in the situation: You gave the wrong answer in front of your whole class
"Everybody makes mistakes, keep trying!"
Why is it important to use the word AND instead of BUT?
And is more validating!
Describe “aggressive” communication in 3 words
loud, bossy, intimidating, disrespectful, critical
What does "A" stand for in ACCEPTS- and give 2 examples
Activities
Examples may include: go for a walk, hang out with friends, exercise, make dinner
Balancing opposites while entering the paradox of "yes" and "no," "true" and "not true," at the very same time
Dialectics
Give a PST statement you could use in the situation: You didn't do very well on your most recent math test.
"I am trying. I am smart. I am capable"
Use a Wise Mind Statement if you are feeling unmotivated to get out of bed.
I can feel unmotivated and still get to bed and start my morning routine.
Describe 3 characteristics of assertive communication
expressing your needs and wants clearly, calmly, respectfully; a confident tone/body language; good eye contact
We use this word to BALANCE our emotional and reasonable mind?
AND
Skill that teaches us how to maintain relationships and maintain our self respect
GIVE FAST
Give a PST statement you could use in the situation: Your soccer team lost their game, even though you should have easily won against this team.
"I tried my best and I saw my teammates try my best"
Wise mind helps individuals to think more what?
Clear and Balanced thoughts!
Why should we strive to communicate assertively?
Get our needs met, people will listen if we’re calm & respectful
Distress Tolerance
Letting go of fighting reality and understanding that there are some things that we can not change.
Radical Acceptance