DEAR
Name 2 unhelpful ways to communicate and 2 helpful ways to communicate.
Unhelpful: yelling, screaming, hitting, kicking, ignoring, refusing to participate, demanding things.
Helpful: using DEAR, asking for help, using kind words, accepting "no"
True or false: water represents our difficult situations
FALSE! Lemons represent our difficult situations.
Do your emotions last forever?
What is evidence?
Clues, proof, facts, 100% true.
What is your favorite kind of chip?
Delicious!
When we are asking for what we need, should it be realistic?
YES!
What are the 3 ingredients in lemonade?
Sugar, water, and lemons
What are the three sections of our wave?
Before, During the intense emotion, After.
What is an example of a fact vs. Opinion?
Fact: today is Friday
Opinion: Friday is the best day of the week
Share three words that describe yourself.
Amazing!
What should our reaction be if the listener says "no"?
Still have a calm body and accept the "no", we can use radical acceptance, 4x4 breathing, lemons to lemonade and positive self talk.
What does the sugar stand for?
Glimmers of positivity!
What emotions might we feel during the intense emotion phase?
Furious, angry, sad, anxious
What are the two types of evidence we look for in clue snooping?
Helpful and unhelpful.
Would you rather have a axolotl or a capybara?
Great choice!
What does DEAR stand for?
D: describe the situation
E: express your emotions
A: ask for what you need or want
R: reward the listener
Give an example of a time lemons to lemonade would be helpful for you
Example: school, fighting with siblings, losing electronics
Name two skills we can use during each part of the wave?
Therapist determines correct answers.
Is this helpful or unhelpful evidence: My teacher told me I was helpful in class
Helpful
If you were given a million dollars and had to spend it all in one week, what would you buy?
Woah!
Use a DEAR to ask a therapist for a break.
"The situation is I am at Compass, I am feeling nervous, can I please take a break? Thanks for listening"
Give an example of using lemons to lemonade when you lose your electronics--think about a glimmer of something positive in that situation
Ex. "If I show expected behaviors now, at least I'll get them back sooner", "At least I can go play outside now", "At least I can bake cookie now"
Name a situation we might use ride the wave in.
When someone annoys us at school, when our siblings hit us, when parents say no.
Imagine you are having the ANT "I never get what I want". You found these pieces of unhelpful evidence:
- I didn't get a prize from the prize box
- My sibling got to stay up later than me
You ALSO found these pieces of helpful evidence:
- My mom said I could have a friend over
- I got a new toy for my birthday
What is an example of a more balance thought to replace your ANT?
"Sometimes I get what I want and sometimes I don't"
"It's okay if I don't get a prize because I got a new toy yesterday"
If you could have lunch with anyone in the world who would it be?
Cool!