Four Stages of Learning
The way in which someone moves through the last three stages.
Practice
The expectation that a situation will turn out badly without adequate evidence.
Fortune Telling
Who are the two co-founders of AA?
Drama Triangle or Victim Triangle
A process in which someone who has been wronged chooses to let go of their resentment and treat the wrongdoer with compassion.
Forgiveness
The first stage, in which someone is unaware that there is a skill they don't yet have.
Unconscious Incompetence
Interpreting the thoughts and beliefs of others without adequate evidence. "She would not go on a date with me. She probably thinks I'm ugly."
Mind Reading
The promises of AA are found in this chapter of the Big Book
"Into Action" (pp. 83-84, Big Book)
What are the three positions on the Drama or Victim Triangle?
Persecutor (or Villain), Rescuer (or Hero), Victim
In this phase, you will start to understand the offender in a new way which will allow positive feelings toward the offender and yourself.
The Work phase
The last stage, in which the skill has become habit or second nature, no longer requiring as much conscious effort.
Unconscious Competence
Thinking in absolutes such as "always," "never," or "every." "I never do a good enough job on anything."
All-or-Nothing Thinking
The quote "I must keep my magic magnifying mind and my acceptance and off my expectations, for my serenity is directly proportional to my level of acceptance" comes from this chapter in the Big Book.
"Acceptance Was The Answer," p. 420
Flip side of the Victim. Sees others as allies and equals; focuses on what's possible; sees multiple options; questions limiting beliefs; focuses on what they want; expresses authentically; is comfortable in the unknown.
The Creator
In this phase you will improve your understanding of the injustice and how it has impacted your life.
The Uncovering phase
The second stage, in which someone is aware that there is a skill they don't yet have.
Conscious Incompetence
The belief that acts will influence unrelated situations. "I am a good person - bad things shouldn't happen to me."
Magical Thinking
AA's Traditions were first published in this year
1946
Flip side of the Persecutor. Sees other as teachers; taps healthy anger (clarifies and motivates); calls forth something new; requests and facilitates aligned action; questions own and others beliefs and thoughts; claims 100% responsibility; appreciates what is.
The Challenger
In this phase, you will further decrease the negative emotions associated with the injustice. You may find meaning in the experiences and recognize ways in which you have grown as a result.
The Deepening phase
The third stage, in which someone can successfully use a skill, as long as they are thinking about it.
Conscious Competence
The assumption that emotions reflect the way things really are. "I feel like a bad friend - therefore I must be a bad friend."
"I feel afraid - therefore there must actually be danger."
Emotional Reasoning
In 2014, a U.S./Canada membership survey showed that this percentage of AAs were 30 and under
12% (p. 34, Big Book)
Flip side of the Rescuer. Sees others as whole and fully capable; sees themselves as equals; curiously asks questions and listens deeply; encourages self-empowerment; supports others claiming 100% responsibility; focuses on their own business while being available.
The Coach
In this phase, you will gain a deeper understanding of what forgiveness is and make the decision to choose or reject forgiveness as an option.
The Decision phase