FRIENDSHIPS
A healthy friendship should make you feel...
Safe, respected, supported, and accepted.
Emotional intelligence means...
Understanding and managing your own emotions while respecting other people's emotions.
Which is better?
Reacting or Responding?
Responding.
A boundary is...
A limit that protects your peace, safety, and respect.
Peer pressure means...
Feeling pushed to do something because of others.
Your friend says, "If you're really my friend, you can't talk to her."
What is this called?
Controlling behavior.
Why do people sometimes try to control friendships?
Name two warning signs your emotions are getting too intense.
Examples:
Turn this reaction into an assertive response.
Reaction:
"You better stop playing with me."
Possible response:
"I don't like how you're talking to me. Let's talk respectfully."
True or False
Your friends are allowed to have other friends.
True
True or False
Walking away can take more strength than fighting.
True.
Your friend starts hanging out with someone you don't like.
What are two emotionally mature responses?
Possible Answers
Complete the sentence:
"Just because I feel something..."
"...doesn't mean I have to act on it."
Scenario
Someone starts talking loudly about you.
Name three things you can do before fighting.
Examples
Scenario
Your friend keeps asking who you're texting.
What boundary could you set?
Possible Answers
"I'm keeping that private."
"I don't want to discuss that."
Scenario
Someone says,
"Everybody's doing it."
What could you say?
Examples
"I'm good."
"That's not my choice."
"I'm not risking that."
Name three signs a friendship has become unhealthy.
Someone ignores your text.
List three possible explanations besides "They're disrespecting me."
Examples:
You hear a rumor.
Should you
A. Fight immediately
B. Verify the facts first
B
Discussion:
How many fights happen because of assumptions?
Name three examples of emotional boundaries.
Examples
List three possible consequences of fighting besides getting hurt.
Examples
You feel replaced because your friend has become close with someone else.
What emotions might you actually be feeling underneath your anger?
True or False:
People can disagree with me without disrespecting me.
True.
Discussion:
What's the difference between disagreement and disrespect?
Finish the sentence:
Winning an argument isn't always the same as...
Solving the problem.
Scenario
A friend says,
"If you cared about me, you'd fight her."
How would an emotionally intelligent person respond?
Examples
"I'm not fighting."
"I care about you, but violence isn't helping."
"I'm staying out of it."
Scenario
A friend betrays your trust.
Which response shows the highest emotional intelligence?
A. Fight them
B. Spread rumors
C. Calmly address it, set boundaries, and decide if the friendship is healthy
C