SOCIAL CONFIDENCE & SELF-ADVOCACY
Your friend didn't invite you to their birthday party. What's one way you could respond?
• Ask them why • Talk to them calmly about your feelings • Ask if you can still be friends • Accept it and move on
"Your friend is upset. What's the first step to help solve the problem?"
• Ask what's wrong • Listen to them • Show you care • Ask how you can help
"Name one emotion you might feel if you won a game."
• Happy • Excited • Proud • Confident • Joyful
"What are 2 ways to greet someone politely?"
• Say "Hi" or "Hello" • Wave • Shake hands • Smile • Make eye contact • Say their name
"What does it mean to take accountability?"
• Admit what you did • Take responsibility • Say sorry • Own your mistake • Fix it if you can
"How do you politely ask to join a game?"
• "Can I play?" • "May I join?" • "Is there room for one more?" • "Can I be on your team?" • Smile and ask nicely
"You want to join a game at recess but don't know anyone playing. What could you do?"
• Ask "Can I play?" • Watch for a moment then ask to join • Find someone you know and ask them to play • Ask an adult for help joining in
"Two students want the same book. What's one fair solution?"
• Take turns reading it • Share it together • One person reads it first, then the other • Check out different copies • Make a waiting list
What's one thing you can do when you feel frustrated?"
• Take deep breaths • Take a walk • Drink water • Ask for help • Count to 10 • Squeeze a stress ball • Talk to someone
"How do you take turns in a conversation?"
• Listen while the other person talks • Wait for them to finish • Then say your thing • Don't interrupt • Give them time to speak
"You accidentally hurt a friend's feelings. What should you do first?"
• Apologize • Say you're sorry • Explain it was an accident • Ask what you can do to help • Listen to how they feel
"What does it mean to take turns? Give an example."
• One person goes, then another • Everyone gets a chance • You wait while someone else does something • Example: In a game, I roll the dice, then you roll the dice
"A classmate keeps borrowing your supplies without asking. How would you handle it?"
• Tell them to ask first • Say "You need to ask me before borrowing" • Keep supplies in your backpack • Tell a teacher
"Your peer says you were mean, but you didn't mean to be. What could you do?"
• Apologize • Explain you didn't mean it • Ask what you did that hurt them • Ask how you can make it better
"If you're feeling anxious, name 2 calming strategies."
• Deep breathing AND listening to music • Walking AND talking to someone • Drawing AND deep breaths • Stretching AND counting • Drinking water AND sitting quietly
"Name 2 things that show good listening (eye contact, body language, etc.)."
• Make eye contact • Face the person • Nod your head • Keep your body still • Don't look at your phone • Smile • Say "mm-hmm" or "I see"
"State your role in a conflict: 'My friend and I both wanted the same toy.'"
• I wanted the toy too • I should have asked to share • I could have waited my turn • I didn't listen to my friend • I was being selfish
Your friend suggests a game you don't like. How do you respond politely?"
• "I don't really like that game, but thanks for asking" • "Can we play something else instead?" • "I appreciate the idea, but I'd rather play [other game]" • "Maybe next time"
"You made a mistake on a group project. How could you advocate for yourself?"
• Tell the group what happened • Offer to fix it • Explain what you'll do better next time • Ask for help
"A friend keeps getting frustrated during games. How might they be feeling? What could help?"
• They might feel angry/upset • Losing makes them frustrated • They could take a break • You could encourage them • Play a different game • Give them space to calm down
"What's the difference between excitement and frustration? How would your body feel with each?"
Excitement: Happy, energetic, smiling, fast heartbeat, want to jump around • Frustration: Angry, tense, frowning, tight chest, want to yell or stomp
"Your friend is talking. What's one way you can show you're interested?"
• Make eye contact • Nod along • Ask questions • Say "That sounds cool!" • Lean in • Smile • Respond to what they said
"Apologize and explain what you'll do differently next time."
• "I'm sorry I [what I did]. Next time I will [what I'll do better]." • Example: "I'm sorry I interrupted you. Next time I'll wait my turn to talk."
"What's one way to be a good friend when someone is upset?"
• Listen to them • Ask what's wrong • Offer to help • Sit with them • Give them space if they need it • Say something kind • Suggest an activity to cheer them up
"You're uncomfortable with something a peer is asking you to do. What's one thing you could say?"
• "No, I don't want to do that" • "I'm not comfortable with that" • "That doesn't feel right to me" • "I need to tell an adult"
"Describe what your classmate might be thinking if you accidentally bumped into them."
• They might think it was an accident • They might be hurt • They might wonder if you did it on purpose • They could be worried you're mad • They might want you to apologize
You're feeling frustrated. What triggered that feeling, and what could you do about it?"
Trigger examples: Lost a game, someone was mean, can't do something, didn't get what I wanted • What to do: Take a break, talk about it, use a calming strategy, ask for help, try again
"Demonstrate appropriate volume for a classroom discussion vs. a library."
• Classroom: Normal talking voice, louder than a whisper, people nearby can hear • Library: Quiet voice or whisper, very soft, only the person next to you can hear
"Describe what your peer might think or feel about a conflict you had."
• They might feel hurt • They might think I was mean • They might be upset with me • They might not want to be my friend • They might feel left out • They might want me to apologize
"Describe how to start and maintain a friendly conversation."
Start: Greet them, ask a question, smile • Maintain: Listen, take turns talking, ask follow-up questions, respond to what they say, keep eye contact, show interest