The length of a KEEP time-out.
What is 5 minutes?
The less noticeable kinds of daily things we try to notice so that we can give encouragement.
What are little things?
How often we recommend checking the behavior on the chart to keep track of success.
What is every day?
The mountain you don't want to climb, even if your child is heading up.
What is Anger Mountain?
This group member recently added a new permanent family member, and she has the handprints to prove it!
Who is Mandy?
The maximum number of house rules KEEP recommends.
What is 5?
This informal agreement is often made in the moment to encourage cooperation.
Hint: it rhymes!
What is When/Then?
The person who controls the chart.
Who is the parent?
The most powerful thing parents can remove during a power struggle.
What is their attention?
This group member uses the Gordon bench for her time out space.
Who is Amy?
The number of seconds we wait after giving a direction.
What is ten?
When we focus our attention on a behavior, this is what we get.
What is more of that behavior?
What we do if our child doesn't earn the reward.
What is encourage your child to keep trying?
The two teachable moments on the Behavior Escalation Curve.
What are the lowest places, before and then after escalation? (before and after escalation)
This group members uses walks in the woods to calm and connect with her foster son.
Who is Mama T?
The ratio of encouragement to correction.
What is 5 to 1?
The four roles of foster parents
What are teacher, protector, referee, and detective?
The behavior you want to teach to replace a behavior that is problematic, or anti-social.
What is the prosocial opposite?
A common, but ineffective talking technique that parents sometimes use when children are escalating.
Hint: It often goes on, and on, and on...
What is lecturing?
This group member has such a great relationship with her caseworker that her bio kids now want caseworkers, too!
Who is Kristin?
The percentage of times that children mind in response to a parent request.
What is 70%?
The two kinds of incentives, one that is commonly available to all, and another which is specially added to encourage cooperation.
What are privileges and rewards?
The words in the acronym SMART.
What are
Small steps,
Measurable,
Achievable,
Reward
Time?
When consequences can happen, if we're too upset to talk about it right now.
What is later?
This group member learned a lot about life in Grampa's workshop.