Perspective
Two kids want the same marker. How do they both feel?
Both might feel frustrated or upset because they both want it.
You both want the same color. What’s fair?
Take turns, share, or use it for part of the time each.
Taking a deep breath
👍 or 👎
Peaceful 👍 — helps you calm down
Two kids want the same seat.
👉 Solve it
They can take turns, sit near each other, or choose another fair option.
Someone drops your pencil by accident. What do you do?
“It’s okay, accidents happen.”
“Can you please pick it up?”
Your friend didn't pick you to be their partner. How do you and your friend feel?
You might feel sad, left out, or hurt.
They might not realize your feelings or just chose someone else.
You want tag, they want soccer. What could you do?
Play one game first, then switch.
Or combine ideas if possible.
Yelling when mad
👍 or 👎 + what instead?
❌ Not peaceful — better to use calm words or take a breath
Someone changes the game rules.
👉 Solve it
Talk calmly, listen to each other, and agree on rules together.
A friend cuts in line. What is a calm response?
“Excuse me, I was in line.”
“Please go to the back of the line.”
Someone bumps into you by accident. What might both people be thinking?
You might feel annoyed or surprised.
They might feel sorry or say it was an accident.
Two people want to go first. What’s a fair plan?
Take turns, flip a coin, or do rock-paper-scissors.
Grabbing something
👍 or 👎 + what instead?
❌ Not peaceful — better to ask or wait your turn
Someone says “you can’t play.”
👉 Solve it
Use kind words, explain feelings, and find a way to include or join another group respectfully.
You and a friend both want to be leader. What can you do?
“We can take turns being leader.”
“We can share the job together.”
“We can do rock-paper-scissors to decide.”
You want to play, your friend wants to be alone.
Why might they feel that way?
You might feel disappointed.
They might feel tired, overwhelmed, or need quiet time.
You want quiet, your partner wants to talk. Solve it so BOTH are happy.
Have quiet work time first, then talking time.
Or use a whisper voice.
Ignoring someone on purpose
👍 or 👎 + better choice?
❌ Not peaceful — better to talk it out or include them
Your partner isn’t doing it your way.
👉 Solve it
Stay calm, listen to their idea, and compromise or combine ideas.
A game is unfair and people are upset. How can you fix it?
“Let’s stop and talk about the rules.”
“We can make the rules fair for everyone.”
“We can vote on new rules.”
“Let’s take turns so everyone gets a chance.”
You are left out of a group at recess. What are TWO different feelings that could happen in this situation?
Sad
Hurt
Angry
Lonely
Left out
Disappointed
You and a partner cannot agree on how to build a tower. Give TWO possible compromise ideas.
“We can take turns choosing what to build next.”
“We can each build one side of the tower.”
“We can combine both of our ideas.”
Name THREE peaceful ways to handle a big feeling.
Take deep breaths
Ask for a break or quiet time
Talk to a trusted adult or friend
Count to ten slowly
Use calm-down space
Squeeze a stress ball or take a walk
A friend says something unkind and it hurts your feelings. Show how to solve it using kindness, calm words, and a fair solution.
“I feel hurt when you say that. Please be kind.”
“That wasn’t kind. I want us to use nice words.”
“I still want to be your friend, but I need kind words.”
Create your own real-life conflict and show how to solve it using: 👉 feelings 👉 calm choices 👉 compromise
Answers will be different!