Losing someone you love
Expected/unexpected behaviours
Zones
Tools
100

Is feeling something called grief normal when someone you care about dies?

Yes! Grief is someone that a lot of people feel when someone that they care about dies.

100

What are some expected behaviours at school? 

Sitting, learning, doing school work, using an inside voice, keeping feet on the ground, walking.

100
Which one is not a zone that represents a set of feelings: yellow, red, purple, green.

Purple

100

What are two things that calm you down when you are feeling silly or upset?

Hugging your stuffy, playing with pets, moving/stretching

200

What are two feelings besides grief that people can feel when someone they know dies?

Anger, sadness, loneliness, frustration, worry, regret

200

What are unexpected behaviours at school? 

Running, yelling, screaming, hitting, not doing work, talking back. 

200

What is an example of a red zone feeling/behaviour? 

Rage, hitting, kicking, yelling, out of control.

200
Show me what deep breathing is. 

(taking a deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth)

300

Are people allowed to feel happy and have fun after someone they care about dies? 

Yes! In fact, the person who they cared about would want them to be happy and have fun. 

300

What are expected behaviours when my mom tells me I have to leave a place that I am enjoying?

Even though I don't want to leave, it is expected that I follow my mom's instructions and get ready to leave with her. 
300

Is your pencil breaking a small, medium, or large problem? 

It is a small problem because it can be easily fixed and you will forget about it by tomorrow. 
300
What kinds of tools do you use at nighttime to help you relax for sleep?
Listening to an audiobook, being comforted by mom, sucking on an ice cube
400
How long does it take for someone to feel better after someone they care about dies? 

It depends and that is okay. There is no right or wrong way to work through and feel when someone you care about dies. 

400
How do people feel when we show expected behaviours?

People feel happy and calm. They treat us well and usually give us more privileges. They may do more things for us that we enjoy. That makes us feel more happy too. 

400

What is an example of a big, red zone problem?

A natural disaster, a serious car accident ...

400

Does naming your feelings make the feeling smaller?

Yes! Name it to tame it! 

500

What are two things that you can do to help yourself when you are feeling upset about the death of someone you care about? 

Do an activity like draw, play, hang out with pets, sing. Think of a nice memory or object that reminds you of that person. Talk to the person that you miss. Tell someone you trust how you feel and get comfort from them. 
500

What happens when we display unexpected behaviours?

People feel uncomfortable or upset. People then treat us differently which makes us upset. 

500

What zone is best for learning and it is expected at school? 

Green

500

What can I do when someone does something that I don't like? (e.g., Khloe is acting in a bossy way)

I can use "I" statements, tell her what I feel and that I don't like how she is behaving. I can tell her how I would like her to behave.

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