Safe Hands
Is this an example of safe hands or not?
Hitting mom when I get upset.
No, anytime we are hitting anyone (even ourselves) we are not using safe hands and feet.
What could you do instead?
Is this an example of safe feet?
Kicking the back of mom or dads seat in the car when I am upset.
No. Kicking the back of someones seat in the car can be dangerous and could hurt or distract the driver and everyone in the car.
What could we do instead?
Is this an example of a polite mouth?
The teacher asks Tommy to mute himself after his turn and he tells her to shut up.
No, while Tommy might not be happy his turn is over what is something he could do instead of saying shut up?
Which example shows safe hands and feet?
Swinging on the swing outside (holding onto swing, pumping legs)
Throwing and kicking toys inside.
Swinging on the swing outside (holding onto swing, pumping legs)
Why is it not safe to throw or kick things inside?
Show me how to take 3 deep breaths when you need to calm down.
Take 3 SLOW deep breaths.
Is this an example of safe hands?
Holding my moms hand when I need extra help staying calm.
Yes! Sometimes holding a hand or getting a hug can feel good and help us stay calm.
Is this an example of safe feet?
Sitting with my feet and legs calm under my desk.
Yes. If your legs and feet are calm and controlled then you and others are safe.
Telling a friend "I don't like what you are doing, please stop" when they are not taking turns in school.
Yes! It is okay to tell others when you do not like what they are doing. You can also tell others how they are making you feel. How do you think you would feel if a friend was not taking turns?
Who should you use a polite mouth with?
a. Parents
b. Teachers
c. Friends
d. All of the above
d.All of the above.
People should use a polite mouth when talking to us and we should use a polite mouth back.
What is one thing you can say or do instead of staying "f*** you" or "shut up"
We could say "I need a break", "I'm feeling frustrated", "I don't like that", or catch a bubble in our mouths to keep the unkind words in.
Which option shows safe hands?
Pinching someone when I am angry at them.
Squeezing a stress ball when I want to pinch someone.
Squeezing a stress ball when I want to pinch someone.
Sometimes we get so mad we WANT to pinch someone else- but using something else always helps us to use safe hands.
Which option shows safe feet?
Throwing my shoes in the car.
Sitting with my legs crossed or on the floor in front of me.
Sitting with my legs crossed or on the floor in front of me.
Think- is there anyway someone could get hurt with our feet/legs like this?
Which option shows a polite mouth when told it is time for bed?
"F*** you, you moron no its not"
"I wish I had time to play more. I'm mad my time is over"
"I wish I had time to play more. I'm mad my time is over"
It is okay to tell others how you feel or why you are feeling the way you are.
Show me what you could do instead of saying something mean or inappropriate?
Blow up your cheeks, Think it not say it, walk away
Examples: Your chair, a blanket or pillow, your hands, or a ball.
Which option shows safe hands?
Squeezing or pushing my hands together when I start to get frustrated.
Punching and hitting anyone who tries to help me when I am frustrated.
Squeezing or pushing my hands together when I start to get frustrated.
When we are frustrated it can be hard not to take it out on others around us. Squeezing our own hands to help to remind us to stay present.
Which option shows safe feet?
Wrapping my legs and feet in a soft blanket at night.
Kicking my mom while she lays next to me.
Wrapping my legs and feet in a soft blanket at night.
No one is getting their body or feelings hurt.
Which option shows using a polite mouth during school?
"I would like to tell you something"
"Shut up- shut up"
"I would like to tell you something"
When others are taking their turn it is important we listen and do not inturupt so that way they will do the same when we take our turn.
When I feel _______ it is hard to use a polite mouth.
Show me how to catch a bubble in your mouth. When can we use this to help us?
Blow your cheeks up big and pop the air out. This can help when we get frustrated or angry and want to say something this is not polite or kind.
Which is the best option to use safe hands?
Pinching myself when I get mad.
Pinching my mom when I get mad.
Pinching a pillow when I get mad.
Pinching a pillow when I get mad.
No one gets hurt and we still get some of our anger out.
Which is the best option to use safe feet?
Running in place when I need a break from something making me frustrated.
Kicking my desk or computer when I get frustrated.
Kicking mom or dad when I get frustrated.
Running in place when I need a break from something making me frustrated.
Some other ideas: Kicking a soccer ball, getting an exercise band to stretch with your feet, or an indoor trampoline.
Which is the best option for using a polite mouth?
1. Screaming loudly and saying "I dont want to"
2. Asking calmly "can you help me with this, I get frustrated when I do it by myself"
3. Saying "F*** you, you moron"
2. Asking calmly "can you help me with this, I get frustrated when I do it by myself"
Everyone needs help sometimes! We just need to make sure we show it and ask for it with a polite mouth.
What do we get when we use safe hands and feet and a polite mouth?
Do you get anything special at home?
Any day we make friends when we use safe hands and feet and a polite mouth.
Where is one place in your house you go when you need to calm down? What is one thing you do when you are there that help you calm down?
Rooms: Bedroom, Living room, Kitchen, Bathroom, Outside/ backyard, Basement, Parents room
What do you do?: Lay down, play with toys, listen to music, yell and break things, say mean words, take deep breaths