Big Feelings
What is a feeling you have when something doesn't go your way?
Mad, sad, frustrated, disappointed
"Okay, can I do it later?"
What should you do before you act?
STOP (freeze), THINK, DECIDE, CHOOSE
Name a calming activity
Drawing, deep breathing, listening to music, and giving someone a hug
What are "safe hands"?
Hands that don't hit, push, or hurt others
What does your body feel like when you're getting angry?
Hot face, tight fists, fast heartbeat, tense body
True or False: No means never ever?
False
Name one consequence of acting without thinking
Getting in trouble, hurting someone, and losing privileges
What is something you can do to calm your body?
Squeeze a stress ball, use a fidget, count to 10, take a break, ask for a hug
What should you do instead of hitting?
Use your words, walk away, get help
Name one clue that tells you you're getting upset before it gets big
Clenching fists, louder voice, frowning, wanting to yell, tense body
What is a "Plan B"? Give an example.
A different choice (e.g., can't play outside --> play a game inside)
What is a "pause" or "stop" strategy?
Stop your body, take a deep breath, think, then act
When should you use coping skills?
When you start to feel upset (before it gets too big)
What is something you can squeeze instead of a person?
Stress ball, pillow, plushie, or a fidget
What feeling might come after anger?
Sad, guilt, tired
What can you ask instead of getting upset when told no?
"When can I?" "Can I have/do something else?"
What could happen if you hit someone when mad?
They get hurt, you get in trouble
Name 3 coping skills you can use when upset
Deep breathing, take a break, talk to someone, squeeze something
Why is it important to keep your body safe?
What can you say instead of yelling when you are feeling frustrated?
"I am upset," "I need a break." "Can you help me?"
Why is it important to stay calm when you hear "no"?
So you can make a better choice
What is a good choice you can make when feeling impulsive?
Ask for help, take a break, tell someone and walk away
What is positive self-talk?
Name three kind things you can say to yourself.
Positive self-talk is the way you speak to yourself in your mind in a kind, helpful, and encouraging way--especially when things are hard.
:)
Where can you go to calm down safely?
Calm-down corner, bedroom, quiet space