Conflict Resolution
When you are solving problems with others, how should you talk to them?
Answers Vary
What is empathy?
Understanding and sharing the feelings of another person (or putting yourself in another person's shoes to understand how they are feeling)
You are feeling a little frustrated because a math problem is hard or you are feeling wiggly and excited for recess. What zone is this?
Yellow Zone
Explain how the "Imagination Station Tool" works.
Remember a person, place, or thing that brings you joy or comfort.
(Answers vary)
Give me an example of how you could use an I-Statement to solve a problem.
I feel sad because you left me out. Could I please join you? (Responses vary)
If a classmate is being picked on or made fun of by another student, how could you show empathy to them?
Include them in what you are doing, invite them to join you, sitting with them, talking to them afterward so they know they aren't alone, etc. (You can also support them in the moment by telling the student to stop or by quickly going to get help from a trusted teacher or adult.)
Name TWO body signals that someone might experience in the RED ZONE.
Racing heartbeat, body temperature is hot, very quick breathing, thoughts that are racing, etc.
You are feeling frustrated in the Yellow Zone. What Tool of the Week could you use to calm down and get back into the Green Zone?
Most Tools of the Week
What does it mean to take the perspective of another person?
Taking the perspective of another person (often called "perspective-taking") means stepping outside of your own mind to imagine what someone else is thinking, feeling, or experiencing.
What are TWO ways that you can resolve conflict with another person?
Talk it out, compromise, find common ground, agree to disagree, take a break and then come back to the problem, go to a different place/game, etc. (Responses vary)
What does it mean to "validate" someone's feelings?
To let them know that their feelings make sense and are okay to have
Why is it helpful to understand which zone you are in?
It is helpful so you know what you need to do in order to manage your feelings (or regulate yourself).
When you have to do something you just don’t want to do, imagine how you will feel when you’re done. It’s like finding the treasure at the end of the rainbow.
To avoid stereotyping someone, we need to treat every person as a unique individual instead of making assumptions about them based on the group they belong to. We can do this by getting to know people for who they really are, listening to their stories, and challenging our own automatic thoughts.
A bystander is someone who stands by and watches something bad happen (watching bullying happening).
An upstander is someone who stands up for what is right. When they see someone being mistreated, they take action to help, either by speaking up or by getting a trusted adult.
How does practicing empathy help you live a happier life?
It helps you build deeper, more trusting friendships and reduces stress.
Which tool is universally helpful for calming down from the Yellow or Red Zones?
Deep Breathing Exercises
For what Tool of the Week do you break a big worry or project into smaller steps? You start with the first step, then move through your list one step at a time toward your goal.
First Step Tool
Why is it helpful to make goals you have connected to your values and/or interests?
Connecting goals to your values and interests builds internal motivation, which gives you the grit to push through difficult challenges. This alignment ensures that the hard work feels meaningful and that achieving the goal brings genuine personal fulfillment.
What three step conflict resolution strategy did we learn about this school year? (Hint: think lights)
Stop, Opt, Go (Must be in this order)
Why is empathy important?
Empathy is important because it helps you understand how others are feeling, which makes you a kinder and more supportive person. When everyone practices empathy, it makes the whole community a happier, safer, and more welcoming place.
What are the THREE steps of a Zones Check-In? (Your answers must be in correct order.)
1) Identify one or more BODY SIGNALS you are feeling
2) Identify an EMOTION that you are feeling
3) Identify the ZONE you are in
What is the name of the Tool of the Week where you focus on something else to give your brain a break from a thought or task?
Mindshift Tool
What does the acronym S.M.A.R.T. Goal stand for?
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound