Boundaries
What is a boundary?
A boundary is the practice of communicating your personal comforts, values, or limits in all relationships
Examples:
"I'm pretty busy today, so I can only talk for 30 minutes"
"I'm really tired, I can't hang out tonight"
"I don't feel comfortable being around that person, I'll hang out with you guys another time"
"I don't feel comfortable talking about that"
TRUE OR FALSE: Every human being has strength
TRUTH! Human beings deal with a variety of setbacks, challenges and hardships. Honestly just being a human every day requires strength
What's the difference between physical strength and emotional strength?
Physical strength is related to your physical body (how heavy of weights you can lift or strength in sports). Emotional strength is how you respond to emotional experiences in a open, vulnerable, healthy way.
T/F: Elephants are one of the only animals to have grandparents
TRUE! Elephants are one of the few animals that stay connected to older generations
Boundary or Rude?
"GET AWAY FROM ME!!"
That's rude. If someone is bothering you, touching you, or making you uncomfortable, the healthiest way to set a boundary would be :
"Please stop doing that"
"I'm uncomfortable, I'm going to walk away"
"Stop"
TRUE OR FALSE: Boundaries are important in friendships, but not dating relationships
FALSE - boundaries are important in all relationships
What are some examples of emotional strength?
Honesty
Trust
Vulnerability
Courage
Optimism
Self Confidence
T/F: Mr. Joe loves Pizza Ranch
TRUTH. Mr. Joe could be King of Pizza Ranch
Boundary or Rude?
"I appreciate the invite, but I would rather stay at home tonight"
Healthy Boundary!!
TRUE/FALSE: Resilient/strong people don't get stressed or angry
FALSE: The strongest, most resilient people still experience stress, anger, sadness, and anxiety. No amount of strength can avoid those feelings. Challenging feelings are a part of being a human being.
Is being vulnerable a strength?
YES - one of the strongest things a person can do is be vulnerable with their emotions, thoughts and experiences. Being vulnerable requires you to be honest, real and transparent about what you're experiencing. This takes a lot of strength and bravery!
How many students are in our class?
9
Can you set boundaries with adults?
YES!!! Even when there is a power dynamic, you can have your own personal boundaries. The most important thing is that you communicate those boundaries in a healthy, appropriate way.
(disclaimers:
1. not applicable in unsafe situations &
2. some adults may disagree)
True or False: Setting boundaries is easy
FALSE - this really depends on the person. When you first start setting boundaries it can be really hard, but the more you practice the easier it can become. However, even with practice, it can still be hard to do.
Personal strength is how many challenges we can face. Resilience is our ability to recover or "bounce back" from those challenges.
T/F: Mrs. Wahle and Mrs. Swan would never eat at Taco Bell
FALSE!
Taco Bell 4 Lyfe
What are some types of boundaries?
Time
Physical/Space
Sexual
Spiritual
Financial
Non-negotiable
TRUE/FALSE: If someone responds negatively to you setting a boundary, you shouldn't have set the boundary.
FALSE: setting a boundary is for you, not the other person. It's important to be polite in how you communicate the boundary, but sometimes people will be upset when you make a decision that's best for you. Their response doesn't change/affect what's best for you.
Why is resilience important?
Resilience gives us the emotional strength to handle future trauma, hardships, and adversity.
T/F
Everybody in this room is amazing
TRUUUUUUE
:)