Empathy
Showing you understand their feelings.
Why do choices help children cooperate better?
They feel more in control.
Why is it important for the adult to stay calm?
Children copy our moods and reactions. (Modeling)
What is a natural consequence?
Something that happens on its own
Ex. Forgetting a coat so they feel cold.
"argue"
Why is empathy helpful during discipline?
It helps the child feel safe, calm, and validated.
Which is a Love & Logic choice?
a. "Put on your shoes right now!"
b. "Do you want to wear your sneakers or your boots?"
B
What should you avoid doing when a child argues?
Arguing back.
What is a logical consequence?
A consequence that connects to the behavior.
What phrase helps stop whining?
"I'll listen when your voice sounds like mine."
What is one simple empathetic phrase you can use?
Ex. "That's really hard."
Ex. "I know I also feel frustrated when my things get taken."
How many choices should you give at once?
Two
What helps you stay calm in a stressful moment?
Ex. Taking a deep breath or using a calm phrase.
Why should consequences be given calmly?
Kids learn better when they're not scared or angry.
What simple phrase buys the adult some time?
"I'll have to think about that."
A child is upset because they can't play outside. What's an empathetic response?
Should the adult be okay with either options they give?
Yes
A child is yelling. What is a calm Love & Logic response?
Ex. "I'll listen when your voice is calm."
Ex. Let them know you need to take space.
A child forgets their homework at home. What might the consequence be?
They can't turn it in and get a poor grade.
What phrase stops arguing immediately?
"What did I say?"
Why does Love & Logic teach empathy instead of lecturing?
Children listen better when they feel understood.
What do you do if a child refuses both choices?
Calmly choose for them.
You think clearly and don't take the bait.
Why shoudn't adults rescue kids from every mistake?
Kids learn responsibility by experiencing the result of their choices.
When a child makes a poor choice, what is a gentle Love & Logic response?
"Oh... that's so sad. How do you think you'll handle it?"