Respect and Suspending Judgement
What makes you feel respected?
Will vary
What does voicing mean?
It means to be able to share your ideas and opinions
What things do you do to deep listen?
Tap your leg, chew gum, stress balls, snack, etc.
What does bias mean?
When you make a judgement or thought without listening to people first because of an experience or what you have heard from others
What does reflection mean?
Being able to understand the conversation and create new ideas
What does suspended judgement mean?
Being respectful towards other people to understand them and not being rude
Why is voicing important?
It allows us to feel heard and that we are being respected
What does deep listening mean?
To be respectful and pay attention to the person that is talking to you and being willing to learn new things
What is an example of bias?
People with glasses are smart, women are weaker than men, etc.
What does inquiry mean?
It means to think and ask questions to gain a better understanding
How can you respect other people?
Listen while they're talking, communicate without arguing, empathize, etc.
What are some examples of voicing?
Asking questions to understand things, sharing thoughts and ideas, taking time to think
Who is someone you know that is good at deep listening?
Will vary
How can we personally identify our biases/ assumptions?
Don't act before hearing what someone has to say, stop and think about if it is just something that you've heard someone else before, stop and think if the bias is coming from a past experience
What are some good examples of reflection and inquiry?
Ask questions, listen to responses, take your time to think about the conversation
Why is suspending judgement important?
It allows for respect and new relationships and bonds to form with other people
What are some examples of bad voicing?
Second guessing yourself, worrying about what others think
Why is deep listening important?
Shows respect, allows you to learn, keeps an open mind, etc.
Why is it important to identify assumptions?
It allows us to make friendships with people and have respect for each other
What are some bad examples of reflection and inquiry?
Interrupt the other person or people, judge others, ask rude or inappropriate questions
How can we still have respect and be friends with people who have different opinion than ours?
Use suspended judgement to listen to what they are saying and empathize that they might have different experiences than you do
How can we keep respect for others when using voicing?
Think through what you are saying to make sure you are suspending judgment and identifying biases
What is one example of good deep listening and one example of bad deep listening?
Good: Paying attention to what people are saying to you, doing what helps you listen, eye contact, being emotionally present, etc.
Bad: Ignoring what people are saying, not being respectful, talking over someone
Where do you see bias?
Social media, politics, school, etc.
Why is it important to use reflection and inquiry?
It is important because it allows for new ideas and growth, it also allows use to be better at asking questions