Children help teachers to develop these in a classroom
Rules (or limits)
Part of conflict resolution is
Problem Solving
Teachers giving the child helpful information
Meaningful Feedback
When a child seeks power, undue attention, or revenge
Mistaken Goals
Modeling is an effective way to teach children this kind of behavior
Helpful Behavior
Teachers avoid giving this to children when it's not an option
Choice
Identifying a conflict should be done in this way
Nonaccusatory
Somthing to avoid when giving meaningful feedback
Praise
Ignore this impulse when dealing with attention seeking behaviors
Giving In
The first step in teaching more helpful behavior
Observe the Behaviour
Stating multiple limits at a time
Chain of Limits
Teachers invite children to participate in this part of problem solving
Fixing the Problem (or offering solutions)
Express this in relation to a child's effort or interest
Appreciation
Resist this impulse when reacting to a child who seeks power
Fighting Back
The first thing to do with the behavior causing problems for the child
Identify It
Give limits a second time only when necessary or appropriate
Restate Limits
Ideas that can solve the problem
Solutions
Feedback should help children with developing this
Skills
Help a child who seeks revenge change this
Identify this missing thing that would help a child that is struggling with their behaviour
A Skill
This is a very important part of limits and should be included as much as possible
Positivity
Teacher does this after the problem is solved
Follow Up
Even though the child has not done anything wrong, give this kind of feedback
Unconditional
Encouraging a child who demonstrates feelings of inadequacy helps them develop this
Competence (or self confidence/esteem)
An effective way to teach more appropriate behavior
Model