Name That Emotion
If your friend high-fives you when you walk into in the house, you might feel ___________.
happy, good
What message might you be sending if you sit up straight and look someone in the eye while they're telling you a story?
you are paying attention, you care
Give an example of this friend behavior: greeting someone
hello, hi, hey, what's up, how are you, wave, smile
Act out this behavior: counting to ten before telling someone you are angry because of something they did.
How is counting to ten before responding going to help the situation?
Name a good way AND a bad way to handle this situation: You bump into someone while walking in the hallway.
Good: saying "excuse me," apologizing
Bad: saying "hey, watch it," "get out of my way" "move it, lady/mister"
If your friend invites you to a party at another persons house that you do not like?
How would you say no?
annoyed, upset, apprehensive, surprised
What message might you be sending if your arms are crossed and you're tapping your foot while talking to someone?
you are irritated/defensive/annoyed/angry/impatient
Give an example of this friend behavior: politely asking someone to stop a behavior that is annoying you
Hey, I find it really annoying when you kick the back of my chair because I am trying to do something
Act out this behavior: 3 deep breaths
How does this activity help us cope with an emotional reaction?
Name a good way AND a bad way to handle this situation: Someone cuts in front of you in the long line at the register line.
Good: "hey, I think you just cut me in line - can I have my space back please?" - letting it go if you aren't in a hurry
Bad: "hey, that's my spot" and shoving the person back - getting involved in a loud argument, escalating situation
Your family member tells personal information about you to another family member, you might feel _____________.
disappointed, angry, upset embarrassed,
What message might you be sending if you are standing close to another person, frowning, and pointing at them?
How do we deescalate these situations?
you are angry
conflict resolution
Give an example of this friend behavior: how you help a friend
How does doing things for other people help our mood?
Hey, can I help you put that together? It looks like you might be confused. Here, let me help you with that.
-we feel better when we do positive activities, makes us feel good about ourselves
Act out this behavior: taking space
How does taking space help a stressful situation?
Name a good way AND a bad way to handle this situation: You're introducing a new friend to your old friend and they are not getting along .
Good: Using "I" statements, I need you both to slow down and tell me what you are feeling, conflict resolution with friends
Bad: you guys are both getting on my nerves leave
If your someone comes into your room uninvited, you might feel __________.
How would you set a boundary?
angry
"I" statements
ex) I feel like my personal space is being violated when you come into my room univited
What message might you be sending if you are sitting against a wall with your arms crossed over your knees and your head is down?
you are sad/upset
What helps you when you feel sad?
Give an example of this friend behavior: asking participate in something
Hey, can I join with you? That game looks fun. Thanks! Hey, what are you guys playing? Can I please join you?
Act out this behavior: using a stress ball to calm down
Why does engaging in physical activity help our mood?
Name a good way AND a bad way to handle this situation: Your mom friend yells at you for something your sister did.
Good: wait for your friend to stop speaking so that you can hear everything and respond. Lower your tone to model how you want to be spoken to. State your case
Bad: yelling back, escalating situation, physical response
You walk into the store and purchase the winning lottery ticket, how do you feel?
How do we try to maintain a positive mood?
Happy, Elated, Joyous,
Mindfulness, positive affirmations, positive self-talk, coping skills
What message might you be sending if you are doing something else, avoiding eye contact, and not responding while someone is talking to you?
you are ignoring them, not listening, you are angry at them
Give an example of this friend behavior: using an "I feel" statement
I feel _________ when you ___________. It makes me feel ___________ when you __________.
Act out this behavior: journaling your thoughts
How does writing our thoughts down help us manage our mood?
It helps us express our thoughts as an alternative to immediately talking about it
helps us organize and identify our emotions better
Name a good way AND a bad way to handle this situation: Your friend accidentally breaks something of yours that is expensive or valuable.
Good: Use coping skill for immediate feelings, feeling disappointed but keeping emotions under control, ask how it happened, set boundaries
Bad: yelling at your friend, throwing the broken toy, demanding that your parents buy a new one