Etiquette 101
What is etiquette?
Etiquette is the requirements of your social behavior; it’s the proper conduct as established in any class, community or setting
Name as many ways you can show dining etiquette. (30 sec).
Saying "excuse me", saying "please", saying "thank you", having good manners, not being gross, cleaning up after yourself, saying something kind, using a closing statement, etc.
What is the first thing you should do when you meet a new person?
Introduce yourself!
A good introduction includes your name, and a little bit about yourself, as is relevant to the setting.
You're invited to a dinner party at 6. When do you arrive and do you bring anything?
Arrive on time, or shortly before.
Ask the host before if you can bring something. If they say no, you can always bring a host gift.
Tell the person you need to check out and will call them back. Take out the AirPods and greet the cashier or attendant.
What should you ask someone when you first enter their home, before walking in?
Would you prefer I take my shoes off or leave them on?
Right
Left
Hobbies, jobs, travel, recent books/movies.
Generally avoid: Politics and religion**
Where should your phone be when at a meal.
AWAY and not on the table. It should also be placed on silent.
How does personal hygiene play a role in social etiquette?
Answers vary.
What does having proper etiquette show other people about you?
Having proper etiquette improves peoples feelings about you & develop a comfort level to better get to know you!
At a dinner where food is being served, when can you begin eating?
After everyone has received their food.
How do you balance a conversation?
Ask questions about the other, listen actively, and try to make communication roughly 50/50. Don't monopolize the conversation and always turn it around on yourself.
Is it ever okay to have your elbows on the table?
Yes, just not while actively eating. Elbows can rest on the table between courses, or after you have finished a meal.
Organize these dress codes from least dressy to most.
Black tie
Business Casual
Casual
Semi-Formal
Business
Casual
Business Casual
Business
Semi-Formal
Black Tie
Answers vary.
When passing food around the table, what direction should you pass?
To the right, or counterclockwise.
You are in the room with two friends who don't know one another. How do you introduce them?
Introduce them by name to each other, and share context on how you know each of them.
(This is my friend Sarah - she and I grew up together in Indy).
When and where do you place your napkin?
You place your napkin in your lap as soon as you sit down.
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Your friend arrives 5 minutes late to a job interview, is she demonstrating proper etiquette? Explain.
No she is not demonstrating proper etiquette because she should arrive at least 10-15 minutes early for a job interview.
How do you indicate you are finished with your meal?
Explain how conversation is about MORE than the words spoken.
Body language, reading the room, including others and knowing when an individual is uncomfortable with topics being discussed.
Challenge - on the whiteboard, draw a place setting including:
plates
forks, spoons, knife
drink
bread
napkin
FORK on the LEFT.
Everything else on the right. Dessert utensils above.
Hand trick for bread and drink.
Do etiquette rules vary? Justify your answer.
Some of them - no. Please, thank you, phones, etc.
Some do - dining (utensils), dress, punctuality, etc.