Values
The quality of being truthful, sincere, and straightforward in speech and action.
What is Honesty?
Speaking in a loud volume, interrupting often, criticizing or blaming others, dominating the conversation, and using 'you' statements.
What is aggressive communication?
A boundary style where they are overly trustful of others, have difficulty saying no, are overly involved in other's problems, avoids conflict by giving in, and communicates passively.
What is porous boundaries?
A positive friendship sign involving being able to take your friend's perspective and understand their feelings, even when you do not agree.
What is empathy?
A relationship maintenance behavior involving demonstrating trust in the relationship and giving it the appropriate priority in their life schedule, verbalizing commitment and respect for your friendship.
What are assurances?
The condition of being protected from or unlikely to cause danger, risk, or injury.
What is Safety?
Avoiding expressing feelings, opinions, and needs. Poor boundaries, needs not being met, feelings being 'walked on'. Keeping things inside.
What is Passive communication?
A boundary style in which people are kept at a distance, they are very untrusting of others, say no most often, are detached from other's issues, ignore other's opinions, and communicates aggressively.
What are rigid boundaries?
What is stonewalling?
This horseman looks like showing anger, disgust, or hostility toward your friend. Involves putdowns or insults, acting superior, or using a mocking or sarcastic tone of voice.
What is contempt?
The ability to do something or act in a particular way, especially as a faculty or quality, or the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.
What is power?
Feelings of resentment, actions not meeting up with feelings, avoiding confrontation and denying issues, expressing anger 'sideways'.
What is passive aggressive communication?
The acronym that describes an interpersonal effectiveness skill involving describing, expressing, asserting, reinforcing, mindfulness, appearance, and negotiating skills.
What is DEARMAN?
A positive quality of a friendship in which you are able to find happiness in the time spent together and apart, where some needs are met outside the one friendship.
What is balance?
This is the antidote to deflecting responsibility for your own mistakes and behaviors, or refusing to accept feedback. This can look like making excuses or shifting blame.
Free from outside control; not depending on another's authority. Not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence.
What is Independence?
Identifying and advocating for each person's needs, using a calm and clear tone of voice, listening without interrupting, good self control, and using 'i' statements.
A statement containing an expression of your feelings, with an explanation of why that does not place blame on another person.
What is an 'I' Statement?
A conflict resolution skill where you are carful to only discuss the issue at hand, and not start blaming or making excuses.
What is 'focus on the problem, not the person'?
This horseman's antidote involves dealing with problems in a calm and gentle way, saving the discussion for an appropriate time, using warm body language, and tone of voice, as well as 'I' statements.
What is Criticism?
The combined action of a group of people, especially when effective and efficient.
What is Teamwork?
A communication technique that involves actively listening to someone, understanding what they are saying, and then confirming that you understand by repeating or paraphrasing what they said.
What is reflective or active listening?
When using this skill you repeat back what someone said to you but in your own words, showing that you didn't just hear the other's problems, but that you are trying to understand.
What are reflections?
The preferred outcome to a conflict, where you have used your skills and have come to an agreement with your friend.
What is compromise?
A relationship maintenance aspect involving allowing friendships to flourish with community support and engagement, meaning spending time together with others and having a wider group of friends.
What is a social network?