"Can I play?" or "That looks fun! Can I join?"
Is it okay to talk to everyone you meet on the bus or subway?
No, some people want to be alone or have quiet time.
You see a neighbor in the hallway. What’s a friendly thing you can say?
"Hi!", "Have a good day!"
Who are some people you might meet at a restaurant?
Servers, cashiers, other kids, or families.
Is it okay to talk to your driver if you want to?
Yes! You can say "hi" or ask simple questions if you feel comfortable.
Simple questions, "How are you?"
You want to say hi to a kid you have never seen. How can you prepare yourself?
Take a deep breath, find something you have in common with them, and ask them to play
What is one kind question you could ask a kid your age on the subway or bus?
"Hi, I am _, what's your name?"
"Do you like riding the bus/subway?"
"Have a safe trip!"
When is it okay to start a conversation with someone who lives in your building?
If they greet you by saying, "Hi, how are you?", they do not look like they are busy (busy looks like walking out of the building)
not busy (waiting for the elevator)
How can you politely ask for what you want to eat or drink?
"Can I please have __?"
"Thank you!"
What’s one kind way to start a conversation?
“Hi, how’s your day going?” or “Thanks for driving me!”
"Okay, have fun!", "Alright, let me know if you want to play later,"- and find something else to play with
How can you tell if someone does not want to talk?
What’s a safe topic you can talk about with a neighbor?
Ask a question, "How are you?"
If the restaurant is loud or you feel overwhelmed, what can you do?
Use headphones, ask your adult, "Can we move tables?", or "Can I take a break outside?"
How can you tell if your driver doesn’t want to talk?
They give short answers, focus on driving, or don’t ask questions back.
You don't want to play tag right now. How can you say no using kind words?
"I don't want to play tag right now", "I don't feel like playing tag right now, maybe later"
What could you do if someone is being too loud or makes you feel uncomfortable?
If someone talks to you but you don’t feel comfortable talking right now, what could you say?
“Hi, I’m tired right now, maybe I’ll talk another time.”
How can you introduce yourself to the server or cashier?
"Hi, how are you?"- wait for their response
Ask, "Can I please order __"
What can you do if you don’t feel like talking during the ride?
Smile at the driver and stay quiet, look out the window, or use headphones.
How can you tell if someone wants to play with you at the park?
How can you teel if someone does NOT want to play with you right now?
They ask to play, they are being friendly and joining in on your play, and their body language is showing their interest in playing.
They say "I don't want to play with you", "I don't like this game", they are being unsafe with their body
How can you tell someone you are not interested in speaking on the bus/subway?
"I don't feel like talking right now"
How can you tell if it’s not a good time to talk to your neighbor?
They look busy (are on the phone, or walk away quickly)
How can you tell someone you do not like the food?
Make a plan with your adult or ask, "I do not like this, can I try something else?",
How can you advocate for yourself if something makes you uncomfortable in the car?
“Can you please turn the music down?” or “I’d like to stop talking now.”