Thinking Errors
This is another phrase we use for thinking errors.
What is Cognitive Distortions?
An Empathetic Listening Tip where if you speak, you should refer to the person's words, ask questions, and clarify comments as needed.
What is Restate and Paraphrase?
A list of ways to ensure that a discussion does not turn into a full argument.
What is Fair Fighting Rules?
A tool used to help people understand/learn about how domestic violence is perpetuated.
What is the Power and Control Wheel?
These two items should always go at the top of any papers we pass out.
What is Name and Date?
A thinking error that occurs when we see things purely in 'black or white'.
What is 'All or Nothing' Thinking?
The first roadblock to being empathetic.
What is Not Paying Attention?
When you remain grounded and patient when deciding to be seriously committed to someone.
What is be careful of jumping into a committed relationship right off the bat?
A form of control when an abuser controls what the victim does, who she sees and talks to, and where she goes?
What is Using Isolation?
The amount of absences that will cause you to be dismissed from the program.
What is 3 in a row or a total of 7 in 52 weeks?
A thinking error where someone sees a situation the way they want to instead of as they really are.
What is Deceptive (Wishful) Thinking?
An empathetic listening tip where you remove distractions and ensure that you have time to spend talking with the person.
What is give the person your undivided attention?
The three best ways to handle criticism.
What are ask for details, agree with the accurate part of the criticism, and if she is right, then apologize?
A form of control where the abuser makes the victim ask for money, takes her money, or does not let her have access to the family income.
What is Using Economic Abuse?
Language that is not tolerated nor will be apart of group.
What is Victim Blaming Language?
A list of ways to help change your self-talk (give 2 of 5).
What is catch it, control it, challenge it, change it, cherish it?
The definition of Empathy.
What is empathy is not feeling sorry for someone, it's feeling sorry with them?
A way to choose a healthy partner so that we do not end up feeling confused, anxious, or a general feeling of something being amiss.
What is Don't Make Choices Out of Fear?
The four worst ways to handle criticism.
What is avoid the criticism or critic, deny the critical comment, make excuses, and fight back?
The MENders facilitators.
Who are Darcy and Macayla?
This is an activity that we do every group to help learn how to change these thinking errors.
What is CBT worksheet?
The 7 tips for Empathetic Listening.
What is be nonjudgmental, give the person your undivided attention, listen carefully (to feelings and facts), show that you are listening carefully, don't be afraid of silence, restate and rephrase, and follow up?
A Fair Fighting rule that ensures that you do not refuse to communicate and just shut down during an argument.
What is No Stonewalling?
The name for little incidents (legos) that lead to a big incident (the lego sculpture) when in an abusive relationship. This also allows abusers to become more comfortable in the ways they control their victims.
What is Coercive Control?
Two of the most important things you can do to complete the program.
What is Take Accountability and Participate?