Boundaries I
What is a boundary?
what you can and cannot do.
What are 2 main forms of communication?
Verbal and non-verbal communication
What is a love language?
how someone gives and receives love
What does CBT stand for?
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
The only person you can control is...
Yourself.
Who are the 2 types of people you set boundaries for?
Yourself and others
What are 4 styles of communication?
1. Passive
2. Passive Aggressive
3. Assertive
4. Aggressive
What is an emotional boundary? Why is this important to have?
Limitations on a person's emotions, what they do and do not share with other people, which is important to limit getting hurt and building trust slowly.
What is thinking that affects us in a negative way?
Thinking traps/automatic thoughts/cognitive distortions
Having a good life requires what 2 things (2 B words)?
Balance and Boundaries
How are your boundaries and your values related to each other?
Your values help you determine what your boundaries are and how you will respond when they are crossed. Your values represent what your boundaries say about you.
What are I statements? How are they helpful with communication?
It is keeping the conversation focused on the problem and what you need, rather than on that person.
What is the difference between a rigid boundary vs a porous one?
Rigid boundary is closed off, isolated from others, never trusting &
Porous boundary is being too open, having no limits with others, always trusting
What is all or nothing thinking?
When we live in in extremes or absolutes...good/bad, republican/democrat, etc.
The first step to solving any problem is....
What are Fair Fighting rules?
Boundaries we make for ourselves and others during disagreements and conflicts
What does it mean to have assertive communication?
To respect the rights of yourself, while also respecting the rights of others.
What is an intellectual boundary and why is this important?
a intellectual boundary is limitation on thoughts and ideas, what you and others talk about.
What does it mean to jump to conclusions? How can this harm someone's thinking?
Jumping to conclusions means that you are making assumptions about a situation without evidence.
This can be harmful as it can lead to impulsive decisions before having all the facts or thinking things through.
The difference between honesty and integrity is...
honesty is what someone says/means to do and integrity is following thru/being committed to it.
What are the 4 steps to having and keeping good boundaries?
1. Establish/Set Boundaries
2. Set Consequences
3. Maintain Boundaries
4. Enforce Consequences when crossed
What does OARS stand for?
Open Ended questions
Affirmations
Reflections
Summarizing
What are the 5 love languages? Provide an example for each
Giving gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time.
What is emotional reasoning?
When we use our emotions to make assumption about how things are.
Finish this sentence (Altruism means giving to others without...)
any expectation or any thing in return...