Practice
Cognitive Reframing
DV 101
Anger Management
Conflict Resolution
100
(I feel …… when ….. I would like……..)
What is an “I” statement.
100
Challenging negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones.
What is cognitive reframing?
100
muscle tension, lack of sleep, headaches, high blood pressure, hair loss, weight loss or gain, poor concentration
What is Name 3 physical ailments caused by stress?
100
A physical or mental sign that one is agitated, irritated or angry
What is a “Red Flag”?
100
Why is listening important to solving issues?
listening helps one understand why the other feels or thinks in a certain way. It also demonstrates to the other that you do understand her
200
Name two other words for each emotion: mad, sad, and happy
frustrated, irritated, agitated, disturbed, annoyed, depressed, sullen, overwhelmed, distraught, elated, joyful, excited
200
Reframe this thought, “I will not get this job. Why am I even here at the interview? I’ll just make a fool of myself”.
I may not be qualified for the job; however, I will get great practice interviewing, may make some networking leads, or understand what I need to improve for next time. Who knows, I just might get it.”
200
yoga, exercise, meditation, artwork, music, breathing, dancing, connect with nature, imagery, laughing, reading, progressive muscle relaxation, visiting with friends, practicing hobby, petting pets, gardening
What is Name 3 ways to reduce stress.
200
(ie red face, increased heart beat, sweat, scowl, grit teeth, curse, yell, think “Not again” or “bring it” or “why me?”)
What is Name 3 biological or cognitive indicators of anger that you experience.
200
Why is empathy important to solving issues?
What is Understanding someone’s reasoning , makes it easier to compromise
300
List the 3 of the 5 classic apology mistakes?
What is not being genuine, crummy body language, waiting for the perfect moment, expecting immediate and total forgiveness, and apologizing too much.
300
Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt & Stonewalling. Try to acknowledge, stop behavior, discover why used, & reframe
What are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse? When recognized, how do you address this behavior?
300
Masculinity traps and how do these get in the way of positive relationship?
What is Men…musts, should, etc
300
In the Stair Steps to Anger exercise, when should the “Time Out” method of de-escalation be implemented? Why?
What is low on the continuum so that one can de-escalate with more success and think about reframing
300
Which is usually more strongly understood, verbal or nonverbal communication? Why?
What is Non verbal or verbal however, nonverbal is 70% of conversation
400
Name the 3 concepts of active listening and provide an example for each.
What is paraphrasing- stating in your own words what you think the other person said. Clarifying- asking questions to get more info. Personalizing-offering a personal example of feeling the same thing or being in the same situation.
400
Anger is a secondary emotion. How does under-standing this help one to reframe a thought? Give an example if necessary
What is one can address the underlying emotion or issue and then think of how to request the other to meet need or simply understand.
400
Suppose when you were growing up your mother often did not feed you regularly, provide help in school, cared about your interests and told you that you were worthless. Now that you are grown, what do you think your triggers would be in a relationship
What is stability, acceptance, appreciation, adoration, self esteem
400
Role Play using a correct “Time Out” using all the rules.
What is asking for a “Time Out” for oneself, giving the location, return time, and offer a time to revisit the issue. The BIGGEST mistake is not revisiting the issue.
400
What are the phases of the cycle of violence? How do you break the cycle? Give an example if necessary
What is Honeymoon, tension building, event/violence, repair. Time Out, relaxation, reframe, avoid 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse, empathy, active listening
500
Define and give an example of each- Passive, Aggressive, Passive/Aggressive, and Assertive.
What is Passive: Not addressing feelings with other i.e. doing what is told/asked all the time. Aggressive: Stating in a forceful manner your feelings or ideas i.e. yelling, demanding, throwing things. Pass/Agg: Not addressing feelings but then doing something indirectly as revenge or a show of emotion i.e. purposefully missing an appointment. Assertive: Sharing your feelings and ideas in a respectful manner i.e. “I Statement”
500
Go to the board and write an example of Albert Ellis’ ABC’s of Cognitive Reframing. A=Activating Event, B=Belief, C=Consequence.
What is . A=Ask wife to take out trash. She says, “you do it”. B=You say, “Its your job”. May have to challenge belief. C=She rolls her eyes and leaves the house or you catch yourself at Belief and reframe B=”Can you help me? I’m doing dishes now.” C=”OK” and takes out garbage.
500
Name five out of the seven categories of Bad Rap and how can you change this type of thinking?
What is black & white, minimizing, mindreading, awfulizing, error in blaming, down-putting, emotional reasoning
500
Road Rage situation happens. How do you handle the situation?
What is must show use of skills in the class such as reframing, empathy, relaxation
500
Role Play a conflict resolution situation
What is using listening skills, I statements, compromise
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