Handling Conflict
A friend borrowed an item without asking. Name a positive and negative way to handle this situation.
positive: set boundaries with the friend around using your stuff, ask for your things back respectfully, communicate using "I feel" statements
negative: yell at your friend, ghost them, steal from them, etc
name 3 positive effects of music
better mood, less stress, less insomnia
name an example of an emotional boundary
don't bring up parents, or don't joke about my hair, or no body shaming talk
THIS IS A SECONDARY EMOTION THAT OFTEN RESULTS FROM UNDERLYING FEELINGS LIKE LOSS, FEAR, OR FRUSTRATION
what is anger?
name 2 body language cues that help show someone you're listening to them.
eye contact, toes pointing towards the other person, nodding your head
A peer made a joke about your clothing and it hurt your feelings. Name a positive and negative way to handle this situation
positive: tell them it hurt your feelings using "I feel" language, ask them to not joke about it anymore, work on your own self image and let it go
negative: yell at your friend, hold onto the resentment, end the friendship
the habitual process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts.
What is meditation?
if you don't have this, then you don't have permission to touch someone
What is consent?
name three physical signs that you are getting angry
clenched fists, racing heart, red face, sweaty, etc
Name three physical symptoms of anxiety
sweating, racing heart, tightness in chest, restlessness, difficulty sleeping, fatigue, persistent negative thoughts, fear
Name a good and bad way to handle this situation: your mom yells at you for something your sister did.
good: you take space, set boundaries with your mom, use a coping skill, explain to your mom that it was your sisters behavior, explain to your mom how yelling impacts you
bad: yell back, throw a tantrum
30 minutes of this a day is proven to help reduce feelings of depression and anxiety
What is exercise?
Someone comes into your safe space and refuses to leave when you ask them. How can you appropriately advocate for yourself
set boundaries, remove yourself from the situation,
PEOPLE TEASING YOU, GETTING IN A FIGHT WITH YOUR FAMILY, OR LOSING A GAME CAN ALL BE _______ - AND COULD BE THE START OF YOUR GETTING ANGRY/UPSET.
what is a trigger?
what features are used to make our facial expressions
eyes, brows, forehead, and mouth
A group of kids want to fight you at school. Name a positive and negative way of dealing with this situation
negative: seek them out, fight them first, threaten them/confront them, avoid the situation completely
positive: seek out help from trusted adults, advocate for yourself, lie low and don't bring any additional negativity to the situation
Act out this behavior: take 3 deep breaths
boomzies
Americans prefer an average of 18-inches distance in regards to what common physical boundary?
What is personal space
a teacher made you mad and you want to punch them. What consequences does this action have, good and bad.
Good: feel less angry in the moment, feel like justice has been served
bad: damage relationships, charges, lose trust, physical injuries, etc
true or false: Body language can be miscommunicated? explain
certain physical cues can have multiple meanings. For example, eye contact can indicate someone is paying attention or it can indicate someone is angry
The police are knocking on your door just asking to talk. name a positive and negative way to handle the situation
negative: run or hide from the police, be combative with the police
positive: speak calmly with the police and advocate appropriately for yourself
Name three appropriate places to take space on the unit
chill zone, your room, safety square
What is one physical boundary that is really important to you?
Thank you for sharing
A peer is in crisis and its triggering you. What do you need to do in order to appropriately regulate?
use your coping skills: music, deep breathing, positive imagery
follow crisis expectations
take space as needed and directed
What do the body language cues of crossed arms and tapping feet indicate?
Impatience and/or inattention