When we encounter a problem, it is important to ask ourselves how big the problem really is, and adjust our reaction to match that.
What is size of the problem?
Tyler keeps shouting out his opinion during a lesson while the rest of the class is trying to listen to the teacher. His peers are feeling annoyed and when it is time to choose partners for an activity, nobody asks Tyler to be their partner. This is likely because Tyler was using ________________________.
What is unexpected behavior?
Knowledge of one's own feelings and motives.
What is self-awareness?
What does SEL stand for?
When we use our brains, bodies, eyes, and voices to listen to others.
What is Whole Body Listening?
Sarah joins a table at lunch and when she sits down she looks and listens to her peers and realizes they are talking about their favorite book series. She joins the conversation and shares that her favorite book series is Hunger Games. Sarah is thinking with her _______ when she joins the group.
What are eyes?
When you encounter a challenge or a problem, and you are able to think of multiple strategies and potential outcomes, you are using ______________.
What is flexible thinking?
Adjusting our _____________ to change our ____________ in stressful situations, is a way for us to practice self-management.
What are thoughts and feelings?
Name a time or place that you need to use self-management. Everyone on your team must answer a different answer!
School, bus, classroom, with friends, out in public, online/social media, interacting with adults, etc.
When your body is faced towards the group that you are working with, and this communicates respect and makes other people feel comfortable around you.
What is Body in the Group?
Matt had to take a math test, and he was really anxious because math is a challenging subject for him. He kept thinking "I'm going to fail, it doesn't matter anyways". Matt's __________ were influencing his ___________ about the math test.
What are thoughts and feelings?
When you encounter a problem or a challenge and you refuse to try a new strategy because you are convinced that nothing can solve this problem, you are engaging in _________________.
What is stuck thinking?
What is expected behavior?
You pay attention to what other people expect of you in certain situations by looking at the behavior of others, the volume of their voices, and their reactions to other people. You are looking for _____________________.
Developing a good understanding of __________ and _________ is important for establishing friendships, participating in groups and taking others’ thoughts into account when we act and react.
What is thoughts and feelings?
Brian looks at the teacher, takes notes about what he is teaching, and thinks about questions that he might have. Brian is using ____________________.
What is whole body listening?
When you are in line at the grocery store and running late for a birthday party, you don't yell "hurry up!" at the person in front of you because you are aware of the ______________________ that you are expected to follow at the store.
What are hidden rules?
When your parents won't let you go out to a party that a lot of your friends are attending, and you are feeling really upset, you stop and think about how big this problem is compared to a real emergency. Then once you are calm you talk to your parents about a plan to see your friends that you both can agree on. You used ___________________to manage your emotions and problem solve.
What is Size of the Problem?
What should you do if you notice that your peers are annoyed or frustrated with you?
What is adjusting my own choices to use expected behavior.
Taking responsibility of one's own behavior, actions, and well-being.
What is self-management?
Kayla is working on a group project with three classmates. She turns her back to the group, sits facing sideways and plays on her phone. Kayla needs to be aware of her ___________________, and that it is communicating to her peers that she is not interested in helping them. Her peers are feeling frustrated and do not want Kayla in their group because she is not contributing.
What is "body in the group"?
This type of behavior makes other people feel comfortable around you, and helps you to make and keep friends.
What is expected behavior?
You really want to branch out and make some new friends in a different group, so when you join a conversation with them at recess you face the group, make an on-topic comment, and listen to what others are saying. What strategies are you using to manage yourself and make friends? (Hint: there are 3!)
What is whole body listening, body in the group, and expected behavior?
How can you let a peer know that you are frustrated or uncomfortable with their behavior in an expected way?