Being Your Best Self
When you stop and think about how you are feeling and acting, it's called this.
What is self-awareness?
When someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do, this two-letter word can be said kindly but firmly.
What is “no”?
Taking your and others' needs into account while remaining respectful, calm, and clear.
What is Assertive communication?
This is the first step when there's a disagreement or problem.
What is figuring out what the real issue is?
The ability to know how to stay calm when you're upset.
What is self-control or self-regulation?
Doing something kind for yourself like taking a break, talking to a friend, or going for a walk is called this.
What is self-care?
When you want to say how you feel without blaming, try starting your sentence with this word.
What is "I"?
This style can be too loud or pushy and hurt people’s feelings.
What is Aggressive communication?
When both people work together to find a fair answer, that’s called this.
What is working together or a compromise?
When you can tell how a friend is feeling, even if they don’t say it, you’re using this.
What is empathy?
This kind of thinking helps you focus on what's going well, instead of just what’s going wrong.
What is positive thinking or gratitude?
True or False: Being assertive means being rude or bossy to get your way.
What is false?
When someone acts nice but is actually upset or angry inside, they’re being this.
What is Passive-Aggressive?
Sometimes it’s better to take a break during a disagreement instead of saying something you might regret. What is this called?
What is cooling off or taking space?
You’re feeling mad, but you’re not sure why. What’s one thing you can do to figure it out?
What is name the feeling or think about what happened?
Writing in a journal can help you do this with your thoughts and feelings.
What is to understand and/or organize them?
BONUS: What other benefits does journaling have?
You want to tell a friend they hurt your feelings, but you’re nervous. What’s one thing you can do before talking to them to feel more confident?
What is practice what you’ll say or take a deep breath?
BONUS: What other thing can you do before talking to them to feel more confident?
If someone avoids sharing how they feel and just goes along with things, they’re using this style.
What is Passive communication?
When you listen carefully, repeat back what you heard, and try to understand the other person, you’re using this skill.
What is active listening?
You notice a friend is being left out at lunch. What’s one emotionally smart thing you could do?
What is invite her to sit with you or ask if she’s okay?
When you're trying something new or tough and you keep going even when it's hard, you're showing this quality.
What is perseverance or resilience?
Your classmate keeps copying your homework. You want them to stop, but don’t want to cause drama. What’s one assertive way to handle it?
What is tell them calmly that it’s not okay and ask them to do their own work?
Give an example of one of the communication styles we have talked about.
Aggressive: Yelling in someone's face during an argument. Rolling your eyes.
Passive: Walking away from someone who is "poking the bear" or purposely trying to invoke a reaction out of you. Not expressing your needs.
Assertive: Telling a friend she hurt your feelings. Making eye contact.
What can happen if you just ignore problems instead of talking them out?
What is things get worse or feelings build up?
Can you name one way to build stronger friendships using emotional intelligence?
What is listening, showing empathy, being honest, or supporting them when they need help? (Any of these are acceptable.)