Wise Mind
What are the two states of mind that combine to create wise mind?
Emotional and logical/rational/reasonable
Name the three parts of the HOW skill.
One-mindfully, Non-judgmentally, Effectively
You shared a personal story with a friend and she said she wouldn’t tell anyone. You later find out your friend has told a few other people. How would your emotion mind tell you to react?
Cut her off, yell at her, fight her
If you are allowing your judgment to be clouded by feelings, what state of mind are you in?
Emotional/emotion mind
Which part of the WHAT skill involves paying attention to the present moment without judging it or trying to push the experience away?
Observe
Which of the HOW skills requires letting go of distractions and refocusing your attention?
One-mindfully
A close friend constantly texts you late at night to vent about their problems, disrupting your sleep. How would your logical mind tell you to react?
Tell them you need sleep and can't answer their texts and you don't care how it makes them feel.
Which state of mind allows you to think clearly and use all available information?
Wise mind
Which skill involves applying words to your experience, like saying, "I feel a tightness in my throat," rather than "I am having a panic attack."
Describe
An opinion on an observation (ex: sadness is a bad emotion)
Your mom was supposed to put money on your phone so you could call her and she never did. Explain how each state of mind would react to this.
Emotion mind: she hates me and doesn't want to talk to me
Logical mind: maybe she doesn't have any money right now so I can't be upset about it
Wise mind: acknowledge that your feelings are hurt and remember that there may be a reason that she hasn't been able to
Impulsive behavior: yelling at someone, fighting, ending a relationship, etc
Which skill are you using when you stop multi-tasking, put your phone down during a dinner conversation, and throw your full focus into listening to the other person.
The HOW skill asks you to avoid judging your thoughts. Why could it be harmful to judge your thoughts?
Judging can lead to shame, sadness, and guilt.
I'm noticing that I have the feeling that I'm not being heard. She might be feeling defensive, but it doesn't mean she doesn't care.
Which cognitive distortion occurs when you assume that because you feel a certain way, it must be true?
Why is the WHAT skill useful?
The WHAT skills tell us what to do (observe, describe, and participate. What do the HOW skills tell us?
How you are supposed to observe, describe, and participate.
Notice a thought you're having today. Use WHAT and HOW to explain it to the group.