Tommy has his back towards the teacher while she is teaching the class during math.
Unexpected
100
You are having a bad day and your teacher asks you do a worksheet you don't want to do. You rip up the worksheet and storm out of class. What thoughts are your classmates and teacher having?
Uncomfortable
100
You trip on a crack in the sidewalk, and almost fall (but don't).
'just a glitch'
100
A smart guess is using what you SEE, _____, and ALREADY KNOW to figure out what is happening.
HEAR
100
These Behaviors cause "Comfortable" thoughts
Expected Behaviors
200
Molly raised her hand to answer a question in class.
Expected
200
You are tossing a football around outside during lunch. You accidentally hit a stranger in the face with the football when you throw it too far. You laugh and run away. What kind of thoughts is that stranger having? What about the people who saw the whole thing happen?
Uncomfortable
Uncomfortable
200
You get a papercut.
'just a glitch'
200
The opposite of a 'smart guess' is a _______ guess.
Wacky
200
These behaviors cause "uncomfortable thoughts"
Unexpected Behaviors
300
You say "I am so bored" to your teacher during class.
Unexpected
300
You are sleeping during class. What kind of thoughts are your classmates/teachers having?
Uncomfortable
300
A tornado destroyed your house and all of your neighbor's houses too.
Big Disaster
300
Why do we need to make a 'smart guess'? How does it help us?
To figure out what is expected.
So we know what to do in any situation.
300
Fill in the Blanks:
Situation, UNEXPECTED behaviors, _____ of others, my feelings, __________
Same Situation, ________behaviors, Thoughts of others, my feelings, _________
400
You say 'hi' and smile when you see someone you know in the hallway during passing period.
Expected
400
You say the F-word as you walk down the hall. What kind of thoughts do your peers have? what about your teachers?
Situation: dinner table
Unexpected behavior: eating like an animal
Thoughts of others: uncomfortable
My thoughts: oblivious, embarrased
Consequences: Make a 'smart guess'
Same Situation
Expected behavior: use table manners
Thoughts of others: comfortable
My thoughts: calm
Consequences: none
500
Your class is having a discussion about hurricanes. You raise your hand and ask "when is this class over with?"
Situation: Mom takes video game away
Unexpected Behavior : teenager throws temper tantrum, reaction doesn't match the size of the problem
Thoughts of others: UNCOMFORTABLE
Feelings of teenager: Angry, out of control, embarrased
Consequences: youtube video, still no game,
EXPECTED behavior: "it's just a glitch"
Thoughts of others: Comfortable
Feelings of teenager: calm, proud
Consequences: maybe he'd get the game back? no youtube video...