Healthy Relationships
What are boundaries?
Limits we place with other people on what is or is not okay.
What are the three different ways of communication?
Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive.
Why are feelings important?
It's our body telling us what is going on. What we are comfortable with. What we aren't comfortable with.
Do thoughts have an affect on our feelings?
Yes.
What are red flags?
Warning signs that we may not be in a healthy relationship.
What does being assertive mean?
You are able to communicate your needs and feelings without putting down others.
What does labeling your feeling mean?
It means recognizing and understanding the name of the feeling you're having.
Putting a NAME to the feeling that you're experiencing.
Give an example of how positive thoughts might help?
A coach giving a pep talk to his team during half time.
Give an example of a negative thought you may have. Make it more helpful.
Are boundaries the same for everyone?
No. You have different boundaries for what you're comfortable with from your mom, best friend, or a teacher.
Your friend wants to borrow your only pencil to use for the test. They’ve done this multiple times before.
What is an aggressive way to communicate to them?
AGAIN? Get your own pencil!
Where might somebody feel ANGER in their body?
Head (Hot)
Arms (Tight)
This can be different for EVERYBODY
What are negative thoughts?
Thoughts that are not helpful and bring us down.
What are some of your own boundaries?
What are some red flags in a relationship?
1. They are controlling.
2. They put you down.
3. They don't respect your boundaries.
Your friend keeps putting their arm around you in a way that you aren’t comfortable with. You try to talk to them about the issue.
What is a passive way to deal with this situation?
Nothing. Let them keep doing it.
What are coping skills?
Things we can do to help us manage big feelings.
Leslie is worried about a math test she has to take at the end of the week. What might be a negative thought Leslie has? What is a more helpful thought she can have?
Negative thought example: I'm going to fail.
Helpful thought: I can study before the test. I've passed tests before, etc.
Name 3 of your own coping skills!
The bond or attachment we have with other people. Does not have to be boyfriend/girlfriend.
How can somebody be assertive?
Tell somebody the problem, express how you feel, state what you want to happen.
What are some things we can do to manage big feelings?
1. Coping Skills
2. Take care of our body
3. Look for support
4. Have helpful thoughts.
Jamie wanted to hang out with her friends over the weekend, but did not hear from them all weekend.
What is a negative thought he might have?
What is a more helpful thought?
Negative thought: They don't like me.
Helpful thought: Maybe they were just busy.