Good vs. Bad Stress
Describe good stress
Good stress is positive and you feel nervous, but excited. Your adrenaline is boosted. It can motivate you, improve performance, and help you grow.
What are pro-social skills?
Sharing, helping, empathy, active listening, cooperation, respecting others, expressing emotions respectfully.....
What are the two types of mindsets we reviewed
Fixed & Growth
Why is it important to express our emotions?
Expressing feelings is important for both mental and emotional well-being, as well as for strengthening relationships and understanding others. It allows for improved communication, self-awareness, and the ability to address personal needs and boundaries. Additionally, it can help individuals cope with challenges, build resilience, and connect with others on a deeper level.
What is an act of kindness?
An act of kindness is an action that aims to help or brighten someone else's day, often without expecting anything in return. (ex: holding the door open, saying good morning, complimenting a person, offering help)
Give one example of both bad and good stress
Bad: Family, school, grief, fighting, health issues, overcommitting to tasks/hobbies
Good: school concert, family vacation, birthdays, starting a new job, sports games
Why are pro-social skills important?
It helps individuals feel connected, builds trust, and can even reduce depression.
What are the differences between growth and fixed mindsets?
Growth: Positive, can build confidence, motivation, acceptance of failing but able to work through it, continuous growth
Fixed: Negative, negative self-talk towards self, lacks motivation, is fine with doing badly and has no desire to do better, believes that they can't do better
How can holding in our emotions impact our relationships?
We may lose trust from our friends, we won't get the help we need, we may feel negative feelings towards others for not helping us, people won't confide in us, continuous negative emotions can build up and we may physically harm others........
What activity did we do to practice self-regulating?
Heart Rate Monitor
Give two ways to cope with bad stress
Asking for help from an adult or friend, utilizing coping skills to reset, planning out how to handle a situation..... etc
Name 4 places that we use pro-social skills everyday
School, in the community, at a restaurant, with family, hanging out with friends, meeting new people, talking to peers, at the gym, work, helping around the house...
How can having a fixed mindset impact you daily (give two examples)
Constantly living with a fixed mindset can set you up to speak negatively to yourself, feel as if you can't do anything, not capable to get through hard things, feel emotionally dysregulated, speak negatively to peers/friends......
How do you know when you are angry/upset?
Making a fist, walking around, yelling, fast heart beat, feeling warm, getting a knot in your throat, desire to cry, cursing, speaking negatively to peers/adults......
Three facts about Ms. A
From New York, favorite color is pink, just got engaged, birthday is in May, I have worked in a high school before coming here, played lacrosse & basketball, enjoys Philly sports, went to the Superbowl this year
List three examples of how bad stress can impact you?
Less sleep, lose motivation, physical symptoms include headaches & stomach aches, anxiety... open to other responses
What does someone who has negative pro-social skills look like?
Lack of empathy, remorse, or guilt, and unconcerned behaviors. These behaviors are often associated with a disregard for the feelings and well-being of others, and can be a predictor of future conduct problems and antisocial behaviors.
Imagine that you had your dream job, but it's a lot harder than you thought it would be. What do you do when faced with these new difficult tasks?
Persevere and push yourself to grow in your new job. Ask for assistance if you are unsure of what to do.
Provide 5 coping skills examples to utilize when feeling negative emotions
Deep breathing, art, music, talking to a teacher, parent, therapist, counselor, friend, meditating, journaling, going to the gym, sports, counting, 5 senses......
How do you recognize when you are feeling burnt-out?
Emotional Signs
Irritability or mood swings
Persistent sadness or hopelessness
Increased sensitivity to criticism or rejection
Loss of interest in hobbies or social activities
Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or “numb”
2. Physical Signs
Constant fatigue or low energy, even after sleep
Frequent headaches, stomachaches, or other unexplained physical complaints
Changes in appetite (eating much more or less than usual)
Insomnia or excessive sleeping
Neglect of personal hygiene or appearance
Behavioral Signs
Drop in academic performance despite effort
Avoiding school, skipping classes, or frequent complaints about going
Withdrawal from friends and family
Procrastination or lack of motivation
Increased use of technology to escape (e.g., excessive gaming, social media)
How can good stress be beneficial to us and what emotions/describe how we feel (looking for 2 out of 3 of the words we talked about to describe good stress)
It can motivate us to do better
Emotions/description words: Nervous, excited & jittery
Provide 4 examples of positive communication skills and example one physically
Expressing emotions, utilizing eye-contact, waiting your turn to speak, not talking over others, sitting forward facing the person, sitting up straight, following rules, nodding head to show listening, non-verbal expressions (facial expressions engaged), appropriate tone and language....
Give two examples of a fixed statement and give two examples of a growth statement
Fixed examples: "I want to give up", "I am not smart enough", "I will never be able to do it", "Everyone else is smarter than me"
Growth: "I will keep trying", "I'm still learning", "I will try a different way", "I can learn from my mistakes", "I am capable of getting through hard things"
A friend comes to you and expresses feeling upset because she has a lot going on. She woke up late for school, her dad yelled at her, she forgot to hand in an assignment which dropped her grade in math, she feels burnt-out and doesn't know what to do.
What kind of advice would you give her?
- Has she tried to speak to an adult
- Provide coping skills
- Prioritize importance of things she has to do
- Break down each situation one by one
- Ask how you can support her best
Name 7 out of the 12 topics we talked about
1. Acts of kindness
2. Pro-Social Skills
3. Emotions
4. Coping Skills
5. Burn-Out
6. Transitions
7. Good vs. Bad Stress
8. Communication skills
9. Gratitude
10. Self-Regulation
11. Fixed vs. Growth Mindset
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