It Starts with Me
Your awareness and your ability to function outside of your preference is what you project to the world around you - This is what others identify as
What is Your Attitude?
A developed skill with the intention to connect, understand, and add value
What is Leading with Listening?
This system shows us the nine ways that people in the world default to in life including; core beliefs, motivations, fears, desires, strengths, weaknesses, and areas of growth
What is The Enneagram?
The utilization of communication to promote the development of individuals, ideas, processes, systems, and projects.
What is Developed Communication or Development Communication?
For this reason, difficult conversations and conflicts are very difficult for most people.
What is Difficult Conversations and Conflict are Highly Personal?
Do this if you want your team to take more initiative
What is BE APPROACHABLE?
The desire to fix other's problems and offer answers instead of listening attentively to the other person
What is The Righting Reflex?
All nine types fall into either Gut/Body, Head, or Heart
What is Triads?
Nonverbal signals that modify the meaning of verbal expressions
What is Meta-Communication or Meta-Messages?
What the five stages of conflict will end in if unmanaged or managed poorly
What is Crisis/Explosion?
This German-born Nobel-Prize-winning physicist once said: "It’s not that I’m smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”
Who is Albert Einstein?
Essential for making others feel valued, this is the process of communication that confirms whether all parties involved have reached a mutual understanding, and addresses any misunderstandings or misinterpretations before moving forward
What is Closed-Loop Communication or Drive-Thru Communication?
Leaders can cultivate more developed skills of these 2 "E" words when they can identify the different personality types and what makes them tick
What are Empathy & Empowerment?
The leaders who inspire the best results from others are the leaders who do this
What is Genuinely Connect?
What do we separate fire/conflict from when we approach conflict with a "Flow" rather than a "Fight" or "Flight" approach? (Think: the H2O vs. the CO2)
What is Growth Potential?
Effectively holding oneself accountable and effectively holding others accountable is the only way others will feel EMPOWERED enough to do this
What is Effectively Hold THEMSELVES Accountable?
American Author and Radio & Television Host once said: "I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I’m going to learn, I must do it by listening."
Who is Larry King?
Double Dare
The FIRST leader to get to the front and offer an answer to this prompt gets double points for their team:
Is there any specific advice on growth that you can give to others who share your same enneagram
number?
This model for Intentional Coaching and Mentorship can be used on a larger scale to facilitate Developed Communication
What is The GROW Model?
The identification of bad conflict and discerning when to diffuse it as well as identifying good conflict and knowing how to leverage it for the benefit of the organization, team, situation, or individual.
What is A Leader's Role in Conflict?
This describes learning how to build the muscles of holding yourself and others accountable without shame, self-righteousness, or judgment. This refers to building those muscles with truth, compassion/grace, and clarity
What is The Attitude or Posture of Accountability?
In this particular order, these are examples of:
1. "How did you come to that conclusion?"
2.“What I’m hearing is...”
3. "That sounds like a promising way to move forward."
What are:
1. Open- Ended Questions
2. Summaries or Reflections
3. Affirmations
Choose to Challenge
Here are the rules:
You can choose to name 5 Enneagram Types with their title (EXAMPLE: Type 10 - The Nonexistent) and double your points
OR
Challenge another team. If they fail no one is awarded points. If they succeed they get 500 points and you lose 500 points.
The type of process needed in order to create lasting development, growth, and sustainability within people, teams, and in an organization
What is A Bottom-Up Process?
The Core Skills of Difficult Conversations and Conflict Management:
Thier Opposites:
1. Discomfort
2. Incident
3. Misunderstanding
4. Tension
5. Crisis
What are:
1. Awareness
2. Curiosity
3. Empathy
4. Intentionality
5. Shared Resolve
The acronym for processing emotions.
What is S.I.N.G ?
Slow Down
Identify
Navigate/Nurture
Let GO
The type of relationship with an attuned process of communication.
What is Transformational?
The Best Way To Get An Engineer's Attention...
What is saying "There's gotta be a better way to do this."
Other acceptable responses:
Break something/ something breaks
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The size of this determines who and what we attract, what we get, and what we keep. (The Frying Pan)
What is our expectancy?
Fluency in this area can help avoid conflict.
What is Emotional Intelligence?