Vocab
What is "conflict"?
When 2 or more people, groups, or ideas disagree, run into problems, and/or have tension because they want different things, believe different things, or feel harmed by something.
what is person vs. person conflict?
A conflict between two people who disagree, argue, or hurt each other’s feelings.
how can disagreement cause conflict?
those involved have different goals, desires, beliefs, or values
What does it mean to avoid conflict? Give one example of what it might look like.
people might not ever address their uneasy feelings - they might avoid talking to the person, seeing the person, talking about what happened, or just pretend nothing happened at all
What is unresolved conflict?
Conflict that continues because the core issue was never addressed, understood, or worked through
Does conflict always have to be a bad thing?
Conflict doesn’t have to be a bad thing - if we use healthy conflict resolution skills it is actually something that can make our friendships and our lives better.
to settle, end, or find a solution to a conflict
what is relationship conflict?
When conflict is about personal issues, feelings, or misunderstandings between people.
how can betrayal cause conflict?
BONUS 100 - give an example
trust is broken in a relationship
conflict might end (in a not healthy way) OR the conflict gets a lot worse
How might unresolved conflict impact someones emotional well-being?
People could develop a lot of different emotions that grow or impact a person
What is conflict resolution?
the process of working through a conflict with others to find a solution that both sides can accept
what does "resolution" mean?
an agreement or decision that ends a conflict between people
what is person vs. self conflict?
BONUS 300 - give an example
A conflict inside your own mind when you are struggling to make a decision or deal with strong feelings.
how can actions cause conflict?
someone does something that causes hurt or harm emotionally or physically (could be on purpose or on accident)
What does a "big emotional reaction" to conflict mean?
Conflict can be really triggering and that can cause people to have a level 3, 4, or even 5 dysregulation - person could use any behaviors they might use when they are dysregulated
DAILY DOUBLE
Name 4 emotions someone might experience if there is unresolved conflict
anxiety, resentment, sadness, shame, guilt, anger, loneliness, indifference, irritability
What are 2 benefits of healthy conflict resolution?
Have healthier, stronger, and long-lasting relationships; feel better emotionally, express yourself better; prevent boundaries from being crossed; solve problems by yourself; respect yourself and your needs while also respecting others
a person feels attacked or criticized, so they are not able to listen to what others are saying and feel they need to defend themselves against anything being said
what is person vs. group conflict?
When one person disagrees with or feels pressure from a group, like classmates
what is one way unmet needs can cause conflict?
one needs or wants something and the other will not give it or is refusing OR someone in a relationship isn’t showing up in a way that is needed by the other person
What are the 2 ways conflict might end if someone avoids it?
typically, time rolls on and the conflict blows over OR the conflict continues to be around just unaddressed making the people feel uncomfortable
How might unresolved conflict impact relationships?
People might not feel physically or emotionally safe around the person they had conflict with AND might struggle to maintain future relationships as a result
What is the difference between resolve and resolution?
Resolve - is what you do to work through the conflict
Resolution - the result, what you end ups with after resolving
what is person vs. society conflict?
Bonus 100 - give an example
A conflict between an individual against social norms or laws
how could personalities cause conflict?
sometimes people’s personalities are just different and so there is tension
What influences how we think about and experience conflict?
Our past/history with conflict
How could unresolved conflict impact someone's physical health?
The person/people might continue to be in a state of stress - if that is the case, they will continue to release stress hormones (adrenaline, cortisol)
Name the 2 of the 4 goals of conflict.
BONUS 200 - if you name all 4
understand each other, repair relationships, solve the problem, prevent future conflict