Type of Relationship
Explain what trust means.
Trust is assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something
Trust is based on your:
attachment style
past experiences
how one another treat each other
Define mindfulness
Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention to the present. This state is described as observing one’s thoughts and feelings without judging them as good or bad.
Name three non-verbal communication actions and how they relate to relationships
Facial expressions, gestures, body posture, eye contact, and physical proximity
Define boundaries
Boundaries are a protective barrier between you and every relationship in your life that not only defines your values and personal needs, but keeps you safe, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
When should I use DEAR MAN?
To communicate my needs/wants effectively
What are two characteristics of a healthy relationship?
Trust, mutual respect, good communication, openness and self-closure, healthy boundaries, and love and affection
What is one example of a way to intentionally practice mindfulness in a relationship?
Disconnecting from digital distractions, active listening exercise, give a 20 second hug, partner meditation, share daily pleasant events, touch and eye-gazing, etc.
What type of statements should we use to express ourselves?
"I" statements
Name three types of boundaries
Emotional: Sharing feelings, emotional availability
Physical: Personal space, affection, intimacy
Mental: Beliefs and values.
Time: Balancing relationship time with other priorities
Digital/Social Media: Texting/calling frequency, online privacy
Sexual: Comfort levels, consent, pace of intimacy
Financial: Spending, shared money, independence
Should I apologize if I am using GIVE FAST?
No, I am only explaining how something makes me feel and do not need to apologize for having feelings
What are two traits of an unhealthy relationship?
Give two reasons why to practice mindfulness within a relationship
Lowered relationship stress, improved sense of well-being, greater relationship satisfaction, strengthened empathy, and improved communication skills
Name two characteristics of passive communication
Agreeing with anything the other says.
Over apologizing
"Whatever you want to do."
Allowing others to consistently talk over you.
Use "I" statement to let Tammy know he does not feel comfortable giving hugs.
What does D stand for in DEAR MAN?
Describe the situation?
What is one resource you can share with someone that is feeling unsafe in their relationship?
National Domestic Abuse Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)
Olmsted County Victim Services (507-328-7270)
Women's Shelter Inc. (507-285-1010)
Fill in the blank: _________ focuses on care and concern for yourself and your partner. Start by picking loving-kindness phrases together, sit comfortably towards or next to one another, close your eyes or gently look at one another, and take turns whispering the phrases to each other.
Love and Kindness Meditation
What are two types of communication?
Passive, Assertive, Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive
What should I do if my boundary is crossed?
Ask yourself:
Was this a red flag or a misunderstanding?
Are they aware that they crossed my boundary?
Re-affirm your needs
Seek support
Give an example of how to effectively apologize
Reflect on your actions
take responsibility
listen and improve
What are two traits of an abusive relationship?
Physical abuse, communicating in a hurtful way or threatening way, mistreating, accusing the other of cheating when it is not true, denying their actions are abusive, controlling, isolating their partner from others
Fill in the blank: Research show that hugging someone for at least _____ seconds enables our bodies to release oxytocin, the "love hormone. After the hug, take a moment to notice how you both feel.
20 Seconds
Name two ways to practice assertive communication
- respect yourself
- plan what you will day
- express your thoughts and feelings calmly
- say "no" when you need to
Situation: Sara and Tom have a shared bank account. Sara would like to go on more activities with her friends, but Tom says they don't have enough money for this. What should Sara do?
More information might be needed.
What are two things a couple should do after a conflict?
recap what was discussed, give space and use calming skills, be patient and present, avoid bringing up the topic in the future unless changes are not occurring
BONUS POINTS: repeat DEAR MAN or GIVE FAST if changes are not happening