Discipline vs Punishment
What is disciple.
It's when a child no longer has the reasoning part of his/her brain functioning, because they have allowed their emotions to put them in a state of survival mode.
What is their "mind has flipped"?
It is what a parent can do "instead of immediately giving consequences."
What is initiate a conversation.
It's the opposite of time-out and allows for connection and a place for a child to have space to calm down.
What is time-in?
A negative and unpleasant consequence as a response to someone breaking a rule/law.
What is punishment?
It's what you do before your redirect your child.
What is connect?
It's what a parent should do when trying to teach a child, but the child is upset.
What is "wait until your child is ready?"
What is a plea for help?
The Latin word is used to mean "teaching, learning, and giving instruction." The English has meant "to teach."
What is discipline?
It's another name for what a parent/adult does when they discipline with threats (both verbally and nonverbally) and activate the "defensive circuits of our child's reactive reptilian downstairs brain."
What is "poking the lizard?"
It's a question a parent should ask themselves when they want to teach something to their child, but have been upset by the behavior.
What is "Do I feel ready?"
It's the first question parents should ask themselves when addressing a child's negative behaviors.
What is "What do I want to teach in this moment?'
It's not about "punishment or control, but about teaching and skill building-and doing so from a place of love, respect, and emotional connection."
What should discipline look like?
It's the brain's ability to change and make new pathways.
What is neuroplasticity?
Instead of "commanding and demanding" it is what a parent can do to "facilitate empathy and problem solving."
What is engage the upstairs brain?
Rather than focusing on the problem, it is something a parent can do to help the child know what to do and see the good they are already doing.
What is emphasize the positive?