📱 Social Media
Someone watches all your stories but ignores your messages.
👉 Is this response messy or NVC?
“When I don’t hear back for a while, I feel confused because communication matters to me. Can we check in?”
NVC
“Never mind 🙄”
😬 Messy
“Can you let me finish before responding?”
Request
“I’m not available to talk right now.”
Healthy Boundary
Someone Cash App requests you after breaking up with YOU 😭
👉 Best response?
A. “Absolutely not.”
B. “When I received the request, I felt confused…”
B
Someone posts shady quotes after an argument.
👉 Is this messy or NVC?
“If you got something to say, say it with your chest.”
Messy
“When plans change last minute, I feel disappointed because I was looking forward to seeing you.”
NVC
“When I’m interrupted while talking…”
Observation
“I’ve already expressed this boundary. If it keeps happening, I’m taking space.”
Healthy Boundary
Someone says: “You’ve changed.”
👉 Which is NVC?
A. “Good.”
B. “When you say I’ve changed, I feel misunderstood because I’m working on setting boundaries.”
Your friend posts everyone except you.
👉 Identify the FEELING:
“When I saw everyone posted except me, I felt left out…”
Feeling
“You ALWAYS do this.”
Messy
“Because I want to feel heard…”
Need
“I’m done with everybody.”
Messy / Extreme Reaction
Someone says “calm down” while you’re upset.
👉 Which is NVC?
A. “I AM CALM.” 😭
B. “When I hear ‘calm down,’ I feel dismissed because I want to feel heard.”