Stages of Change
Doing the behavior for more than 6 months.
Setting specific deadlines for achieving each short-term goal.
What is Timebound?
Direct, clear, and factual.
What is assertive communication?
Apologize a lot, look down or away, hunching, fidgeting, weak or hesitant voice, letting people make decisions for you.
What is passive communication?
Constantly be in charge, makes rules without input from others or compromise.
What is dominator?
Doing a behavior for fewer than 6 months.
What is Action?
Possible and realistic.
What is Achievable?
When interacting with a stranger or casual aquaintance.
What is small talk?
Using a loud and demanding voice, staring down at the person you are talking to, clenching hands, ordering people around, their ideas and opinions don't matter.
What is aggressive communication?
Puts their wants and needs first and ignores basic responsibilities.
What is neglector?
May deny they have a problem.
What is Precontemplation?
Creates a change that can be observed by others.
What is measurable?
Sharing your true thoughts and feelings.
What is personal level?
Being indirect, confusing others, hiding the truth, encouraging distrust and secrecy, making hurtful comments as humor, gossiping.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
Exploits others to get what they want.
What is manipulator?
May see the benefits, but focused on the costs of making that change.
What is Contemplation?
Pinpoints what you want and intend to pursue; not general or vague.
What is specific?
Involves two people being honest, direct, and transparent with each other.
What is leveling?
Messages that are communicated non-verbally.
What is body language?
Collects hurts and wrongs done to them.
What is poor me?
Committed to making a behavior change in the near future.
What is Preparation?
Something that you really want; improve life for you and others.
What is Rewarding?
To give full attention, Avoid developing a response while the other person is still talking, summarize what is said, share your thoughts and feelings, hand the conversation back with an open-ended question.
What is active listening?
Listen without judging, stop and return when you are calmer, level with the person, use I statements, repeat back your understanding, violence and threats are never acceptable.
What is conflict resolution strategies?
Finish this quote: "It takes less effort to tell the truth because...
What is you don't have to keep track of your lies?"