Values
True or false: a value can guide you, like a North Star
True
Your friend invites you to go to Philz, for a hot chocolate. What feelings might you have?
Happy, glad, excited, joyful, pleased, other?
True or False: Being friends is the same thing as being in a paid staff-client relationship with staff who are friendly?
False
Tom and James are friends. Tom always gets his way and never compromises. James always does what Tom wants, even though it isn't always what James wants. Is this a healthy relationship? why or why not?
Not healthy. In a healthy relationship both people work together and compromise, so they each sometimes get what they want.
Your friend likes going to the movies, eating burgers, and walking on the beach. Design a get-together they might enjoy...
Go to see a movie OR
Get dinner at a burger joint OR
Meet at Ocean Beach for a walk OR
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Art/creativity, Identity/heritage, Friendship & Family, Kindness & Generosity, Communication, Respect, Fun/Playfulness, Humor, Justice/Fairness
Larry had trouble sleeping last night, overslept, was late for work, and missed his get together with a friend because he forgot. What feelings might Larry have?
Overwhelmed, frazzled, tired, frustrated, other?
True or False: Friends always agree and get along.
False. Even best friends sometimes disagree and have problems.
Liza loves talking about movies with her friend Jamie. A new movie is coming out, and Liza is about to talk with Jamie about it, when Jamie tells Liza "My grandma died yesterday". What might Liza say, if she wants to be a good friend?
Liza should say something kind to Jamie to support her, and wait to talk about the new movie.
Your friend is touch sensitive. When you get together, what is something you can do to accommodate them?
Ask consent before touching them OR
Learn about what types of touch they like / don't like
OR
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True or false: all people have the same values
False
You and your mom are supposed to go to the movies. You are excited. But at the last minute, your mom cancels. What feelings might you have?
Disappointed, annoyed, mad, understanding, other?
True or False: Friendship is a choice.
True. Each person gets to decide for themselves if they want to be someone's friend. If someone is forcing you to be their friend, it is not a healthy relationship.
Andrew has autism, and is trying to learn more about friendship by taking a class. He learned that friends may disagree and have problems, and sometimes they apologize forgive each other. He decides to try this.
When friend forgot Andrew's birthday, the friend apologized and invited him out for a late birthday lunch. Based on what he learned in class, how did Andrew respond?
He forgave him, and they enjoyed a late birthday celebration.
Your friend is on a limited budget. You have some extra money to spend, but you want to be considerate of your friend's need to save money. Design a get-together that will work for both of you.
Park, beach, window shopping, free event e.g. library/ museum day, etc.
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A person helps their friend to move furniture. What values might this person have to guide this action?
Kindness, friendship, generosity, helping.
Jim's boss calls him into their office. The boss tells Jim what a great job he has been doing, and how happy everyone is with his work. What feelings might Jim have?
Proud, confident, surprised, motivated, grateful, other?
Which of these is true about friendships: Friendships may grow deeper, stay the same, become more distant, or end.
All can be true. Friendships often change over time.
Libby is talkative, loves going out to parks and restaurants, has 3 dogs, and loves watching horror films. Lexie is fearful of dogs, likes to play video games, and loves watching horror films. Do they seem to have any common interests?
Yes! watching horror films
Your friend has invited you to get together a lot of times. You always say yes, and the 2 of you have a great time. You have never invited your friend to get together.
What can you do to show your friend you care about them?
Invite them for a get together.
Jill has to cancel her plans with her friend Lisa, because she isn't feeling well. Lisa was looking forward to it, but forgives Jill. What value might be important Lisa?
Friendship, kindness, understanding, positivity,
Laurie lives with Joe. Joe sometimes leaves his stuff around the house, including his old papers and trash. One day, she threw out a piece of paper that she thought was trash. But it was a receipt that Joe needed. What feelings might Laurie have? Joe have?
Laurie: Sorry, guilty, frustrated, annoyed, irritated unsure.
Joe: annoyed, irritated, frustrated, sorry, guilty, unsure
When making new friends, it can be good to ask a lot of very personal questions.
False. At first, talk about your interests to see if you have things in common. Personal questions are better once you know and trust each other.
Healthy or Unhealthy: You and your boss get along really well. One day he tells you his partner recently broke up with him. He invites you out on a date.
Unhealthy. In most work places there are rules against this. Typically a work relationship is different from a friendship. When someone is responsible for your salary, it is difficult to be in an equal friendship with them.
Lindsay loves playing games on her computer. She also loves her online crafting meet-up group.
What will her group mates feel if she is always playing video games while they are chatting and doing crafts together?
They will think she doesn't like or care about them or the crafting activity.