Wildcard
Name the two types of values and what each focuses on.
Traditional vs. Criminal
We don't learn from past experiences and don't think about the future. We believe in instant gratification.
Lack of Time Perspective
We put effort into committing crimes or getting high, but when it comes to daily responsibilities, we are too tired or uninterested. We become bored with anything requiring work or effort. We refuse to move through obstacles or stressful situations.
Selective effort
Always or never thinking.
Overgeneralization
Making Something seem greater or smaller than it really is.
Magnification/minimization
Name, in order, the 4 ways to deal with high risk situations.
1. Avoid
2. Prepare
3. Escape
4. Endure
We can't tolerate boredom or stand being alone for more than short periods of time. We seek excitement through crime, drugs, sex, or gambling.
Seek excitement/Seek Pleasure first
Motivated by selfishness, controlling others makes us feel good. Using fear and intimidation to manipulate; uses anger and violence. We lie, cheat, steal, and tell half-truths and beg to continue using.
Use of Power to Control/Use of deceit to control
All or nothing thinking.
Extreme thinking
Thinking we are never at fault or responsible for our behavior.
Actor vs. Observer Bias
Define core beliefs.
The way we see:
1. The world
2. Others
3. Ourselves
We see ourselves as different and special. "No one has ever gone through what I have gone through."
Unique Person Stance
We pose like we are fearless, but we are afraid of vulnerability. We have criminal and addict pride.
Fear of Exposure
Making conclusions based on our feelings.
Emotional Reasoning
Making everything about us.
Personalization
Name and define the 5 stages of change.
1. Pre-contemplation
2. Contemplation
3. Preparation
4. Action
5. Maintenance
We have a distorted idea about which rights and property are ours and which belong to others. We think everything belongs to us. "What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine."
Ownership Stance
We see ourselves as the victim. We make excuses and point the finger at others claiming we were the one who was wronged. The world is our to get us and we are victims of bad luck. We have a hard time taking responsibility.
Victim/Self-Pity Stance
Looking at only one small piece of what happened.
Selective focus
No one can tell us differently.
Closed Thinking
Name, in order, the steps in a thinking report, and where we try to make change.
1. Event
2. Thought
3. Feeling
4. Action
Make changes at the thinking stage
We consider ourselves to be a good person, no matter what we do or how we act. Involves viewing our motives as always good on some level.
Good person stance
Criminal and addictive patterns are about (blank) we think.
'what'
Stubborn, "I know what is right" thinking.
Concrete Thinking
Assuming something without getting all the facts.
Jumping to conclusions