Conflict
What does conflict mean?
Conflict is an argument or a disagreement
What is good listening?
Good listening is someone who gives you their full attention, doesn't interrupt you, leans in.
What can you do to make yourself feel better when you are angry?
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Coping strategies, deep breaths, go for a walk
What is an insincere apology?
An apology where you don't feel like the person meant the apology. They might use a sarcastic tone, might be fast, might walk away from you right away after.
What does it mean to have a different perspective than someone else?
When you see something differently than another person.
What is an example of a conflict?
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What does the R in REAL stand for? What does it mean?
Relax: Take a deep breath and release the tension in your shoulders.
What is anger?
Anger is an emotion that can make us feel bad. We might be upset about something or someone.
What is a sincere apology?
You feel like the person means their apology. They are giving you eye contact, saying what they are sorry for, asking if you are ok or what you need after apologizing.
Why is it important to consider other peoples perspectives in our classroom?
When we consider someone else's perspective we are putting ourselves in their shoes. We are trying to think how they see the conflict, or what is happening from their point of view. It can help us find a solution to a conflict
What is a behaviour we might see during a conflict?
Punching, yelling, screaming, red face, clenched fists, kicking etc.
Empathy: Think about how you can show compassion and care towards the speaker
What is a coping strategy we can use to cool down when we are angry?
Why is it important to take responsibility for our actions?
If we don't take responsibility for our actions our friends will not enjoy being with us anymore. It will allow us to feel confident that we tried to fix the situation and do our best.
What happens when we assume everything is another person's fault in conflict?
We don't take ownership for what we might have done in the conflict.
What might be going on under the surface of the iceberg while someone is in a conflict?
They lost someone, they are tired, they are hungry, a conflict happened at home, their parents are separating etc.
What does the A stand for in REAL and what does it mean?
Attentive behaviour: Think about how you can listen best. Showing eye contact, hands in your lap, feet on the ground.
What happened when we did the balloon game and had one person in the middle trying to keep all the balloons up? What did they need to succeed?
The person in the middle had a hard time keeping the balloon up themselves. They needed support from around the circle to keep the balloons up for longer. Even then it was hard with many different balloons (things that add to our anger)
How does it feel to get an insincere apology?
Feels like they are not sorry, doesn't feel good.
What was the ripple effect?
When one thing happened and it impacted a lot of people outside of the classroom and school community.
What is a peaceful way you can respond during a conflict?
Take a deep breath, get some help, talk nicely with the person in conflict, ask if they need support or help etc.
Lean in and listen: Show open body language, by leaning in a little bit to show you are focused on the speaker.
When our volcano of anger blows up what can we do to cool down?
Take a deep breath, find a support person, try a coping strategy
Show me how you would give someone a sincere apology
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How can we stop the ripple effect from happening?
We can talk directly to the person who the conflict is with instead of spreading things that are not true online or to other people in the class or school.