Week 1 and 2
Is it normal for children to develop at different rates?
Absolutely!!!
Benefits of successfully nurtured children
Understand and handle feelings beter, get along with others, and solve problems in appropriate ways.
What situation do children gain greater confidence?
When they feel safe and secure in their relationships. With Heavenly Father, and parents.
What is overindulging?
Doing everything for the child.
Is time out or time in better?
Time in. Shows them that you are still there even when they make mistakes.
What are some long term effects of extrememly high expectations for children?
Inferiority, insecurity, anxiety, and depression, and an impaired abilty to feel empathy for others.
Show interest and willingness to listen
Ask questions that invite the child to talk
Identify and name the child's feelings
Listen actively by paraphrasing what the child says
Respond nondefensively when the child is upset.
Principles for Listening More effectively
Benefits of Confident Children
Healthier, more optimistic, more soical comfortable, and emotionally secure.
What is the best approach for parent-child problems?
a Christlike attitude
What is a good situation to seek agreement of rules and consequences in advance?
Family Councils
Innately Evil
Innately Good
Blank Slate
Biological
Constructivist
Different world views of children
What are I-statements?
1) State his or her feelings
2) explain why he or she is upset
3) describe how the behavior effects him or her.
Basically, making sure not to place any blame.
What are calming activites?
Meditating, working, jogging, swimming, listening to music, reading a book.
One step at a time.
What happens when you let the consequences do the teaching?
Child will feel responsible and learn from the experience
What are some principles for successful parenting?
Faith, Prayer, Repentance, Forgiveness, Respect, Love, Compassion, Work, Wholesome Recreation
What are the 5 steps of Emotion Coaching?
Step 1: Be aware of the child's emotions
Step 2: Recognize emotion as an opportunity for closeness and teaching
Step 3: Listen Empathically and validate the Child's feelings
Step 4: Help the Child Identify and Name Emotions
Step 5: Set Limits while helping the Child Learn to solve problems
What are some costs of anger?
Loss of the spirit
Loss of respect
Loss of friendship
Loss of self-confidence
Guilt and loneliness
Failure in school
And more!
What are some ways to clarify expectations in teaching children?
Give positive feedback
Show what you mean.
Clarify in your mind what you want.
Choose a good time to make your requests.
Be positive and specific.
3 concepts that make up a logical consequence.
• Make sense to the child. • Indicate respect for the child. • Require the child to pay a price.
What is a "sucessful parent"?
One who has loved, one who has sacrificed, and one who has cared for, taught, and ministered to the needs of a child.
Examples of Christlike Communication
Slow to Condemn
Forgiving
Compassionate
Considerate of His family
Willing to return good for evil
Loving of children
Appreciative
Eager to serve
Willing to Sacrifice
Pretends to be normal Phase
Build-up phase
Acting-out phase
Downward Spiral Phase
The anger cycle
Step 1: State Positions
Step 2: Explore underlying concerns
Step 3: Brainstorm Possible Solutions
Step 4: Select a Solution
Step 5: Carry Out the Solution
The Problem Solving Model
What must the discipline of children be motivated by?
LOVE