GET CALM
Name a coping strategy you can use at school.
A variety of answers including; taking a walk, taking a deep breath, using the calm corner, tapping, positive self-talk, using a fidget, etc.
Say this sentence using a calm tone of voice. "I feel really upset that you aren't playing the game fairly."
*Speaking at a volume that is not yelling, and using a tone that is assertive without being accusatory or aggressive.
Repeat this statement using the word "you" instead of "I" in order to show reflection - "I feel excluded from the group".
Answer: You feel excluded from the group.
Brainstorm a solution to this problem. You and a friend both want to be in the King spot at the start of Four Square.
Some answers: rock paper, scissors, one person is King today and the other person is King tomorrow
Give a classmate a high five to show you successfully resolved the conflict!
*Give high five
What is an example of an unhealthy coping strategy?
A variety of answers including; yelling, shutting down, throwing things, physical aggression, etc.
Show what it looks like to be an active (good) listener while I read this sentence. "I really like playing tag with you, but I was wondering if maybe you'd want to mix it up and play freeze tag?"
*Making eye contact, facing the person, nodding head, etc.
How would you respectfully ask someone to clarify something they said to you?
Something similar to..."I don't understand. Can you explain that to me again?"
What is one way to solve this problem? You were playing a game of UNO and another person joins in and decides to change the rules.
Something similar to: agree to do some rule changes but not all, have everyone vote on which rules to use, decide to finish this game with the same rules and use the new rules for the next game
Give a classmate a congratulatory handshake to celebrate resolving a conflict together!
*Give a handshake
What can you say to someone if they are ready to problem solve using the peace path, but you are not?
Something similar to..."I'm not ready to problem-solve yet. I need more time to calm down. Let's try this again later."
Fill in the blanks to create an I-message about someone cheating in a game of Connect Four. I feel______when______because______. Can you please_______?
Something similar to; I feel bothered when you put two tokens in at once because those are not the Connect Four rules. Can you please just put one token in at a time?
If someone says to you, "I feel really upset about what you said about my art project", what would you say back to them to show that you understand?
Something similar to..."It sounds like what I said about your art project really hurt your feelings and you feel upset."
What is one way to solve this problem? You're playing World Cup and everyone pairs off, but there is one person left over without a partner
Possible answers: make it groups of 2 or 3, that person can be goalie
You and your classmate can't agree on a solution. What is your next step?
Go back a step and brainstorm more ideas OR ask a teacher for help.