Empathy
What is showing empathy?
A. to notice people are feeling something
B. to put yourself in their shoes and see how they are feeling
C. to decide how a person feels and fix their problem
B!
What does it mean to have an on purpose plan?
It is a way to tell if someone is doing something on purpose or on accident.
I am at recess and want to play tag. My friends don't want to play tag right now. I say "okay" and find another group to play tag with. Good choice or not so good choice?
Good Choice!
We use these types of skills to regulate our emotions.
Coping Skills
What coping skill is this?
I take breaths in through my nose and out through my mouth.
Deep Breathing
What are the two steps to using empathy:
1.
2.
1. Try to figure out how a person may be feeling
2. Do something to show them that you care
How can you guess if someone did something on purpose?
If someone does something and laughs about it after or smiles about hurting or upsetting someone.
I'm standing in line and someone gets in front of me. I am feeling really upset. I take three deep breaths and ask them to get behind me. If they don't move, I ignore them and tell a teacher later. Good choice or not so good choice?
Good choice!
Rebecca forgot her homework at home. She is feeling stressed about what her teacher will say. She decides to put her head down and not talk to anyone to avoid the problem. Did she regulate her emotions?
No
What kind of break can I take at school?
Water break, bathroom break, calming corner
Who should we show empathy to?
EVERYONE! It is alway good to practice empathy, even if you don't really like the person.
How can you tell if something was an accident?
You look at the other person and if they seem upset or suprised it might have been an accident. Especially if they apologize immediately.
Your teacher keeps asking you to lift your head up and work on stations. You are getting really frustrated because you are feeling tired. You get up out of your seat and stomp your feet before kicking you chair in. Good choice or not a good choice?
Not a good choice.
Lilly was sitting at her desk when someone rushed by her and spilt her entire artbox on the floor. The person did not realize what happened meaning Lilly had to pick it all up alone. She was feeling very angry and yelled at the person from across the room. Did Lilly regulate her emotions?
No
True or false: A coping skill is a strategy I can use to help handle my emotions
True
Shelley went to the store to buy a new toy. When she about to check-out with her new toys she realized she left all of her allowance money at home! How can you show empathy?
Multiple answers: Think about how she is feeling. Probably sad and frustrated. You could tell her that you see how upset she is and as if there is any way you can help.
David was on the swing and asked a classmate to give him a push. A classmate, Bill, David does not get along with came to the swing to push him. Bill pushed David really hard and David flew off the swing landing hard on the ground. When David looked at Bill, his eyes were wide and his mouth was open. Bill was already apologizing and coming to help David up. Did Bill do this on purpose?
No, considering Bill's actions. This was not on purpose.
You feel like everyone is against you today and you are feeling tired of everyone telling you what to do! You stop and think for a minute. You realize that while at school we have to listen to our teacher even when we are feeling overwhelmed and cranky. You raise your hand and explain to the teacher how you are feeling. Then you ask to take a break. Good choice or not good choice?
Good choice!
Tabby was sitting at her desk working when Bill decided to start poking her on the shoulder over and over again. Tabby asked Bill to stop but he wouldn't. Tabby wanted to hit Bill's hand away, but she knew that would only get her in trouble. Tabby thought of her favorite movie while breathing deeply. She got up to talked to her teacher and moved away from Bill. Did Tabby regulate her emotions?
Yes!
True or false: No coping skill ever work! They are a waste of time, that is why I don't try them.
False
You are in gym class, and you see someone crying in the corner. When you ask them what is wrong, they tell you they were picked last for the game and their team was calling them names. How can you use empathy?
Multiple Answers: You could offer them kind words and go with them to talk to the teacher.
Stephanie is taking a test. Her best friend, Layla, keeps making noises next to Stephanie. Stephanie asks Layla to please stop. Layla stops for a few minutes before continuing to make the noises. When Stephanie looks over at Layla she is giggling and looking back at Stephanie. Is Layla doing this on purpose?
Yes, if someone asks you to stop and you keep going, you are doing that action on purpose.
You and your friend are playing at recess. Your friend puts their hands on your roughly when playing the game. You know they are joking around but it still makes you angry. You turn around and push them back, hard. Good choice or not a good choice?
Not a good choice.
Gage was playing a video game with his friend after school. The game was really close, but his friend ended up winning. Gage was angry and threw his controller and it hit the wall. Did Gage regulate his emotions?
No.
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