Conversations
How can you tell if someone is interested in the conversation?
Look for body language (facial expressions, are they looking at you, smiling, etc.)
How can you tell when a new friendship is going well?
They seek you out to do things individually or in the group
They talk to you and respond to your attempts to talk
They give you their contact information
They say nice things to you and give you compliments
They add you to their social networking pages
They text message, instant message, email, or call you just to talk
They invite you to do things
What are some ways you can bring up a disagreement?
Wait for the right time and place
Keep your cool
Ask to speak privately
Explain your side using “I” statements
Listen to your friend
Repeat what your friend said
Tell them what you need them to do
Try to solve the problem
When you are first meeting someone, you should use humour. True or False
False! When you're first meeting someone you should try to be a little more serious until you get to know them.
What activities should get togethers be based on?
Common interests! (so that everyone can have fun together). But remember.... you don't always get to do the activities that you want.
What is one way you can exit a conversation?
Keep your cool, Look away, Wait for a BRIEF pause, Use a cover story for leaving, “Gotta go!“ “See ya” “Take care”, Walk away
How can you tell if a friendship is not going well?
They do not make you feel happy or accepted
They do things that make you feel hurt or sad
They pressure you to do things they do not want you to
How do you respond to a disagreement if your friend is upset with you?
Listen, take accountability, validation, apologize if necessary, offer a solution
Why is electronic communication challenging at times when it comes to humour?
It's hard to convey tone over electronic communication. For example: "lol" can be used in a sarcastic tone, or in a genuine tone.
Name some important tips for having a get together
Greet your guest
Invite them in
Introduce them
Show them around
Offer refreshments
Ask about your plans
What is one way you can enter a conversation?
Casually look over, use a prop, find a common interest, mention the common interest, make a comment, ask a question, give a compliment, trade information, assess interest, Introduce yourself
Who is a friend?
The definition of a friend for most of us is someone who is there for us.
A friend can be someone that you share close connection with and/or common interests. You may share some common interests or values with friends.
Friends can be in person or online, your next door neighbor friend or a friend could be 1,000 miles away.
Some friends are casual; you may talk on occasion and sometimes you're more close to other friends.
What would be an unhelpful way to respond to a disagreement?
Blaming, yelling, body language such as eye rolling, arms crossed, walking away, not listening
You should repeat a joke if it had a good response the first time you told it. True or false?
False!
Jokes don’t tend to be funny if you’ve already heard them
Exception: If they ask you to tell the joke again
What are some important things to consider when finalizing plans for get togethers?
Make sure people know your address, make sure you do not have anything out that you may not want others to see, prepare activities to have ready to go, clean up, etc.
Provide an example of "trading information"
Example: "Hey, I love your COD shirt, have you played the newest version?"
Where can you meet new friends?
Neighbourhood, school, sports teams, family friends, online, clubs, etc.
What kind of statements should you use when responding to a disagreement?
Use "I" statements such as, "I felt embarrassed when...." rather than "you" statements such as "well YOU did this.."
What kind of jokes should you always avoid?
Avoid “insult jokes”
You could be seen as racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.
You could get in trouble
This could create a hostile environment
This can be very hurtful and ruin friendships
What is an example of a beverage that you could offer a peer?
Water, juice, pop, etc.
ROLE PLAY! Pick a peer or staff to practice entering a conversation with.
Did you: introduce yourself (if necessary), use a prop, casually look over, use an inviting tone, ask a question, give a compliment, trade information, assess if they were interested
Name one HELPFUL and one UNHELPFUL choice to help pursue a friendship
Helpful: mutual respect, communication, compliments
Unhelpful choices: peer pressure, someone who doesn’t listen to you, making fun of you
What is one way to apologize for something that you don't feel responsible for? Hint: It is still validating and supportive
You can say "I'm sorry that this happened" or "I'm sorry that you're feeling this way"
Name some tips for using Humour
Humour should be age appropriate
Not too immature
Not too mature, sophisticated, or intellectual
Humour should be context appropriate
Know your audience
Will they understand the joke?
Is it the right time to be telling a joke
Imagine you are getting together with a friend - where could you hang out? Name some options.
Your house, the mall, a coffee shop, a movie, a restaurant, a park, etc.