Letting them Know
We don't get to date everyone and everyone doesn't get to date us, because dating is a _______
CHOICE
What do you need to know before you ask someone on a date?
Figure out their dating status
Let them know you like them
Talk to mutual friends
Ask them if they are dating anyone
Flirt with them
Flirt with your eyes
Give compliments
Show interest in them
Trade information multiple times
Find common interests
Smile when appropriate
Laugh at their jokes
Assess their romantic interest in you
what do you need to do before going on a date?
Plan and prepare
what are 2 important rules that you should DO on a date
DO remember that dating is a choice
DO move on if YOU are not interested
DO move on if THEY are not interested
DO be polite and respectful
DO be honest and truthful
DO keep in touch
DO ask permission for any physical contact
Show me how let someone know you like them.
Show interest in the person
~Talk to them
~ Trade information
~ Find common interests
Smile when appropriate
Laugh at their jokes
~Give a courtesy laugh
3 qualities of someone that is a good choice to date
you actually like them
they seem interested in you
they have common interests with you
they are around the same age
What are the five W's?
Who
What
Where
When
How
How do you prepare for a date?
•Make your space presentable
•Put away anything you don’t want your date to see, touch, or share
•Use good hygiene
•Dress appropriately
−Your clothing should match the activity
−Don’t dress too provocatively
−Try to look your best
what are 2 important rules that you DON'T do on a date
DON’T get too personal at first
DON’T talk about your dating history at first
DON’T talk about your feelings at first
DON’T rush the relationship
DON’T assume you’re a couple
DON’T kiss and tell
DON’T pressure them
Turning down someone that you do not wish to date.
1.Keep your cool
2.Politely turn them down
3.Give a cover story for turning them down
4.Thank them for asking you out
5.Shift the subject back to the common interest
6.Use a cover story before exiting
Where might you meet someone that you could date?
mutual friends, school, work, clubs, church, community gatherings
When is 1 appropriate time and 1 inappropriate time to ask someone on a date?
When no one else is around; when they’re not in the middle of doing something; when you’re both free to talk; when you’re in person; when they’re in a good mood.
Wat are the rules to stay safe while on a date?
Don’t give out your personal contact information at first
Google your date before you meet
Let friends and family know where you are and who you’re with
Drive yourself to and from the date
Meet your date in a public place
what are the ways that a relationship can be defined?
Not dating other people
Boyfriend/girlfriend
You are in love
You are engaged
You are married / life partners
Ask someone on a date
1.Wait for an appropriate time to ask
2.Trade information
3.Mention your common interests
4.Ask what they’re doing at a certain time (e.g., this weekend)
5.Assess their interest
6.Use common interest as a cover story for going out
7.Exchange contact information
8.Tell them when you’ll follow-up
How can you find out if someone is single?
1.Trade information and find common interests
2.Ask about social activities related to the common interest
3.Casually work dating into the conversation
4.Give a cover story for asking
5.Shift the conversation back to the common interest
What should you do if someone turns you down?
1.Keep your cool
2.Make a casual statement of acceptance
•“Okay, that’s fine.”
•“Okay, no worries.”
3.Shift the subject back to the common interest
4.Use a cover story before exiting
Who should pay for the date?
you should always be prepared to pay and offer to pay or split the bill.
How often to you talk to someone if you are casually dating?
Casual dating / new relationships:
•2-3 times per week
Mutually exclusive:
•Approximately 5 times per week
Boyfriend or girlfriend:
•Every day
how to greet your date if they come to your door?
1.Greet your date
2.Invite them in
3.Introduce them to anyone they don’t know
4.Show them around
5.Offer them refreshments
6.Ask about your plans
what is one rule for giving a compliment?
SPECIFIC compliments for people you DON’T know well
GENERAL compliments ONLY if you know them well
Avoid too many physical compliments
Physical compliments should be from the neck-up
what is 1 good sign and 1 bad sign that the person is interested
GOOD signs: They say they’re available and are smiling; they seem friendly and enthusiastic; they say they’re busy, but seem disappointed.
BAD signs: They say they’re busy and seem uncomfortable; they mention a boyfriend or a girlfriend; they say they’re available, but seem uncomfortable; they change the subject.
How do you end a date?
wait for a pause
use a cover story
thank them and tell them you had a good time
if you want to suggest you do it again,
remember we need permission to make any physical contact
what would be something that is far too personal to ask when you are just starting to date?
banking info, address, talking about traumatic events.
handling pressure from a partner
1.Keep your cool
2.Tell them what you DON’T want to do
•“I’m not comfortable with...”
•“I’m not ready to...”
3.Give a cover story
•“I like to take things slow.”
4.Use “I” statements to tell them how you feel
•“I think I need more time to get to know you.”
5.Change the subject
6.Give a cover story and leave (if still pressured)
7.Remember dating is a choice