Trading communication rules
True or False: An interview-style conversation is considered a 2-way conversation.
What is FALSE
According to PEERS, the golden rule of finding friends is to look for people who share these.
What are: common interests
Sam talks for 3 full minutes about train schedules without letting his partner speak. Sam is guilty of this Session 1/2 mistake.
One way to start/maintain a conversation is _____ ______ ______
What is: finding common interests?
To keep a conversation going after someone answers your question, you should offer a brief related comment and then do this.
What is: asking follow up questions
Taylor asks: "What's your name? Where do you live? What's your GPA? Do you like math?" Taylor is committing this classic conversational error.
What is interviewing/interrogating
Give me a rule for sharing conversations
What is:
- taking turns
- not getting personal too fast
- body language
Asking too many direct questions in a row without sharing anything about yourself turns a friendly chat into this.
What is: an interview
Pat starts a conversation by walking straight up to a stranger in the library and immediately launching into a detailed 10-minute rant about personal family drama and financial stress.
What is: getting too personal too fast
List 4 inappropriate conversational skills
1. Staring
2. bragging
3. hogging conversation
4. getting too personal
Failing to ask a follow-up question after sharing your own thought is equivalent to dropping the ping-pong ball, causing this to happen.
What is: awkward silence
Chris wants to talk about movies, so whenever a peer brings up sports, music, or school, Chris awkwardly pivots the sentence back to cinematic box-office numbers within two seconds.
What is: failing to maintain a conversation
List 4 appropriate conversation skills
What are:
1. share the conversation
2. Find common interests
3. Ask follow-up questions
4. Appropriate body positioning (don't stare; maintain appropriate distance)
To keep the conversation from ending, your questions should primarily be framed as this type rather than simple "yes/no" queries.
What are: open-ended questions
Alex walks up to a group of classmates standing in a circle facing inward with their heads down, whispering. Alex immediately squeezes into the middle of the circle and starts talking about a video game.
What is: ignoring cues