How we learn
This type of learning happens when you are praised or rewarded for a high achievement.
What is Direct Learning (Reward/Positive Reinforcement)
This iconic yellow cartoon family lives in the fictional town of Springfield and has been on TV since 1989.
Who are The Simpsons?
Unhelpful rules are usually defined by these two qualities (starts with I & I).
Inaccurate and Inflexible.
This European capital city is home to the Eiffel Tower, the Louvre museum, and world-famous croissants.
What is Paris?
This behavior involves spending way too much time checking, re-reading, or correcting a task to make sure there are zero mistakes.
What is Overcompensating / Double-Checking? Discussion. how much time this actually saves vs. how much anxiety it creates?
Getting in trouble for spilling a drink or getting a bad grade is an example of this.
Direct Learning (Punishment/Lack of Reinforcement).
This archeologist adventurer is famous for his fedora, his bullwhip, and his intense fear of snakes.
Who is Indiana Jones?
Many perfectionists believe: "If I'm not perfect, then others will realize..." (finish the phrase).
"...how I really am."
This massive, ancient stone structure stretches across thousands of miles in Asia and was built to protect historic borders.
What is the great wall of China?
This common coping mechanism happens when the fear of not doing a task perfectly causes you to delay starting it at all.
What is procrastination?
This is the term for learning perfectionism by watching a parent or role model work themselves to exhaustion.
Indirect Learning or Modeling.
This Friends character is obsessed with being the perfect host, deep-cleans her apartment to an extreme, and cannot handle losing a casual game.
who is monica geller?
The belief "People will only be proud of me if I'm successful" is a result of this.
Generalizing positive reinforcement/Direct learning.
This South American country is the largest on its continent and is home to the vast majority of the Amazon Rainforest.
What is Brazil?
This is the habit of asking friends, coworkers, or partners "Is this okay?" or "Are you mad at me?" to quiet your inner critic.
What is Reassurance Seeking?
This "I" word describes learning by observing others rather than being told directly.
What is Indirect Learning.
This dystopian sci-fi film franchise features Neo, Trinity, and Morpheus fighting against a simulated reality.
What is the Matrix?
This is the specific rule often formed when someone is punished for making a mistake.
"I must never make a mess/I must always get things right."
This striking, symmetry-perfect white marble mausoleum in Agra, India, was built by an emperor in memory of his favorite wife.
What is the Taj Mahal?
When a perfectionist actually does succeed, they rarely celebrate; instead, they usually say this about their standards.
What is "My standards weren't high enough" or "It was just luck"?
Explain how a "helpful" thought can turn into an "unhelpful" rule over time.
A thought becomes a "rule" when it becomes inflexible (e.g., "People like when I succeed" vs "People only like me if I succeed").
This 2023 movie starring Margot Robbie became a massive pink-hued cultural phenomenon and the highest-grossing film of its year.
What is Barbie
Transitioning from "I want to do well" to "I must do things perfectly" makes a rule this.
Inflexible or Rigid.
This city-state is the smallest independent country in the world, entirely surrounded by the city of Rome.
What is Vatican City?
This is the predictable physical and emotional end result of constantly persisting through frustration and fatigue without pivoting.
What is Burnout (or Chronic Fatigue)?